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- 19chris51
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18th Nov 2010 05:57pm
Last Post 26th Mar 2012
Replies 40Discussion: Children`s behaviour
I am appauled at the way children behave, not all I`ll grant you, but gosh I had a lovely friend and her children stay for a few days, man oh man, the boy who is about 7, wow if he could not get his own way, punched,kicked and swore at his mother for goodness sake if mine had of done that they would have been punished, but no this child`s grandmother, gives him what he wants to shut him up and says her daughter is too strict......I don`t know about other kids but I have seen kids behave like him.......Why are kids like this?
- Lindy
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23rd Nov 2010 07:28pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
- grandma4
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23rd Nov 2010 07:59pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves
- Lindy
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23rd Nov 2010 08:46pmgrandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves
Lindy says: Nice to see some likeminded people out there
- stretch
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21st Dec 2010 11:26amgrandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves
stretch says: grandma in your younger days i would have given you a real revin
not this time
old rules old ways
lets learn by your mistakes and watch grandma die in the nursing home - stretch
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29th Apr 2011 12:57pmgrandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves
stretch says: the real trouble is the old values have not been taught for the last group of decendents
it comes with migration we follow the larger amount within our population
what we could do is to ask the teachers to look at trying to use manners and edicute from the former generation or maybe go back to our granparents generation and have a look at the changes with manners - mikhali
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2nd Dec 2011 12:50pmstretch says: the real trouble is the old values have not been taught for the last group of decendents
it comes with migration we follow the larger amount within our population
what we could do is to...mikhali says: While I tend to agree on the point of old values not being taught, I think the bigger problem is the kind of lifestyle everyone is living nowadays.
Pressures of both parents working and then raising a family when they get home - they seek an easy way out - put the kids in front of a computer or TV.
No meaningful interaction or gentle steering in life.
How many kids do chores at home nowadays? How many cook? Who can be bothered?
If anything is being lost, its the idea that you need to work hard in order to acheive anything in life, its not given to you on a platter. This also means the way you interact with people outside the home. Showing respect, compassion and empathy. - sherri
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30th Nov 2011 02:56pmgrandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves
sherri says: Where? Not in my world. I can't think of any teenagers of my acquaintance who are anything other than a delight. Even the 'wild child' I know behaves the way that she does because she cares too much!
yes, I do see some acting out - on tv and in malls etc. - but I don't know these ones, so I don't know their stories and can't judge their reasons. - stretch
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21st Dec 2010 11:25amLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
stretch says: ok i was a parent and have not seen my kids for around 9 years but
as a rule never hit the kids there are other ways of punishing people
lets say you do wrong by me do i walk over and give you a punch in the head as a rule of thumb
dont hit unless you want to be hit back - chonz2
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13th Feb 2011 08:43pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
chonz2 says: I believe a slap every now and then is needed these days. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and i'd bet the people who believe its wrong don't even have children
- stretch
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29th Apr 2011 01:02pmchonz2 says: I believe a slap every now and then is needed these days. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and i'd bet the people who believe its wrong don't even have children
stretch says: i had kids and the law removed them
to memory neither me or the ex never hit the kids as webelieved it was not needed
the old rule of
dont hit unless you want to be hit comes to mind
you need to look at the people the kids are hanging with
and reduce the alcohol and drugs around the kids - stretch
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29th Apr 2011 12:59pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
stretch says: i dont believe a slap would help maybe less grog and drugs around the kids
as well for the kids to spend time with older teachers whist whithin schiool
may help a little
the old rule comes to mind
dont hit unless you want to be hit back comes to mind - paradox
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21st Oct 2011 05:51pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
paradox says: Hi Lindy, love your reply and totally agree. I copped a fair bit more than a slap on the legs and it didn't make me a juvenile delinquent. In regards to Grandmothers, their job is to be on the kids side. I know, I'm married to one.
- starliner
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7th Nov 2011 11:57pmLindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!
starliner says: I totally agree. I have raised 5 children. The youngest is23yo and respect is the key word. You do not give in to bad behaviour. Children will push you to the limit if you let them. sometimes they can take it the other way. If you're not firm, they think you're not interested enough in their welfare. Sometimes we call it Tough Love!
- 19chris51
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23rd Nov 2010 10:28pm19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it again, they ruin society, I don`t say (and I have never ) beat a child, but a spank dosent go astray when they are naughty.
Children are told from an early age (school) that they have rights and I believe they do, but on saying that so have parents, children need boundries,otherwise how do they grow up to be responsable, rational adults, no boundries............. thats what we see a lot in (not all) todays young people - marcia1945
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14th Apr 2011 06:52pm19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it...
marcia1945 says: I totally agree that chrildren need to learn where the boundries are in life, otherwise we have them growing up to having no respect for any one, I don't know how it has got so bad that we have our 80 and 90 yr olds getting attacted in their own homes, is it because we have not taught them to have respect. I am worried for our next generation if this is not stopped soon.
- 19chris51
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14th Apr 2011 09:31pmmarcia1945 says: I totally agree that chrildren need to learn where the boundries are in life, otherwise we have them growing up to having no respect for any one, I don't know how it has got so bad that we have our...
19chris51 says: My daughter`s children, know where their boundries are, they push them at times as children have always done, but on the whole they are really good children, they squabble and argue between themselves,but when she says enough, they stop,(and that is always at home never out) I was with her one time, my grandson(who was aboat 4 at the time)threw a tantrum in K-Mart, she just said "fine, when you have finished your tantrum, I will come back for you," he learnt quick smart not to carry on, if she says NO,she means NO and I think that is some of what is missing, Say What You Mean AND Mean What You Say
- stretch
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29th Apr 2011 01:06pm19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it...
stretch says: but who is to say what is rational
i may use social scicology on you and find anti social behaviour in the mum
i would believe you to be a single mum
no dad on seen
a boyfriend
a son
and trying to keep the kid off the streets and in good company
you dont have a year 10 leaving ticket
am i right - 19chris51
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30th Nov 2011 08:36pmstretch says: but who is to say what is rational
i may use social scicology on you and find anti social behaviour in the mum
i would believe you to be a single mum
no dad on seen
a boyfriend...19chris51 says: gee wiz stretch, you are so clever and absolutly WRONG, with everthing, I am afraid you will have to think again, and guess what I work in Media/Public Relations ! goodness where did you go wrong with your social scicology,guess again They are certificates!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- stretch
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1st Dec 2011 11:13am19chris51 says: gee wiz stretch, you are so clever and absolutly WRONG, with everthing, I am afraid you will have to think again, and guess what I work in Media/Public Relations ! goodness where did you go wrong...
stretch says: i lost my job 9 years ago after a small incodent with the law
look at the facts if you hit some one sooner or later it will come back on you mine has been a long 9 years and i lived in a very abusive household as a child
i believe kids of today need to be punished somehow but try not to hit strike bash or abuse them as it has a hand over effect
good luck with the media as we all believe in freedom of speech and power to the people - 19chris51
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1st Dec 2011 10:24pmstretch says: i lost my job 9 years ago after a small incodent with the law
look at the facts if you hit some one sooner or later it will come back on you mine has been a long 9 years and i lived in a very...19chris51 says: stretch I am sorry for what you went through as a child, we were, (I was) talking a s mall smack on the bottom,not full on abuse e.g. belting a child or mental crulity to a child (or anyone for that matter,which souds like you had) and you are right abuse of any kind reverberates through generations, goodluck ,stretch with everything.