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  • 19chris51
    19chris51
    Posted on:
    18th Nov 2010 05:57pm

    Last Post 25th Apr 2014
    Replies     45

    Children`s behaviour

    I am appauled at the way children behave, not all I`ll grant you, but gosh I had a lovely friend and her children stay for a few days, man oh man, the boy who is about 7, wow if he could not get his own way, punched,kicked and swore at his mother for goodness sake if mine had of done that they would have been punished, but no this child`s grandmother, gives him what he wants to shut him up and says her daughter is too strict......I don`t know about other kids but I have seen kids behave like him.......Why are kids like this?

  • Lindy
    Lindy
    Posted on:
    23rd Nov 2010 07:28pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

  • grandma4
    grandma4
    Posted on:
    23rd Nov 2010 07:59pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves

  • Lindy
    Lindy
    Posted on:
    23rd Nov 2010 08:46pm

    grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves

    Lindy says: Nice to see some likeminded people out there

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    21st Dec 2010 11:26am

    grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves

    stretch says: This comment was removed because the moderators found it broke the house rules.

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    29th Apr 2011 12:57pm

    grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves

    stretch says: the real trouble is the old values have not been taught for the last group of decendents
    it comes with migration we follow the larger amount within our population
    what we could do is to ask the teachers to look at trying to use manners and edicute from the former generation or maybe go back to our granparents generation and have a look at the changes with manners

  • mikhali
    mikhali
    Posted on:
    2nd Dec 2011 12:50pm

    stretch says: the real trouble is the old values have not been taught for the last group of decendents
    it comes with migration we follow the larger amount within our population
    what we could do is to...

    mikhali says: While I tend to agree on the point of old values not being taught, I think the bigger problem is the kind of lifestyle everyone is living nowadays.
    Pressures of both parents working and then raising a family when they get home - they seek an easy way out - put the kids in front of a computer or TV.
    No meaningful interaction or gentle steering in life.
    How many kids do chores at home nowadays? How many cook? Who can be bothered?
    If anything is being lost, its the idea that you need to work hard in order to acheive anything in life, its not given to you on a platter. This also means the way you interact with people outside the home. Showing respect, compassion and empathy.

  • sherri
    sherri
    Posted on:
    30th Nov 2011 02:56pm

    grandma4 says: I totally agree with you lindy the doogooders should pull their head in and take a look at the real world where teenagers are running wild and dont respect or care for anyone but themselves

    sherri says: Where? Not in my world. I can't think of any teenagers of my acquaintance who are anything other than a delight. Even the 'wild child' I know behaves the way that she does because she cares too much!

    yes, I do see some acting out - on tv and in malls etc. - but I don't know these ones, so I don't know their stories and can't judge their reasons.

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    21st Dec 2010 11:25am

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    stretch says: ok i was a parent and have not seen my kids for around 9 years but
    as a rule never hit the kids there are other ways of punishing people
    lets say you do wrong by me do i walk over and give you a punch in the head as a rule of thumb
    dont hit unless you want to be hit back


  • chonz2
    chonz2
    Posted on:
    13th Feb 2011 08:43pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    chonz2 says: I believe a slap every now and then is needed these days. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and i'd bet the people who believe its wrong don't even have children

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    29th Apr 2011 01:02pm

    chonz2 says: I believe a slap every now and then is needed these days. there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and i'd bet the people who believe its wrong don't even have children

    stretch says: i had kids and the law removed them
    to memory neither me or the ex never hit the kids as webelieved it was not needed
    the old rule of
    dont hit unless you want to be hit comes to mind
    you need to look at the people the kids are hanging with
    and reduce the alcohol and drugs around the kids

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    29th Apr 2011 12:59pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    stretch says: i dont believe a slap would help maybe less grog and drugs around the kids
    as well for the kids to spend time with older teachers whist whithin schiool
    may help a little
    the old rule comes to mind
    dont hit unless you want to be hit back comes to mind


  • paradox
    paradox
    Posted on:
    21st Oct 2011 05:51pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    paradox says: Hi Lindy, love your reply and totally agree. I copped a fair bit more than a slap on the legs and it didn't make me a juvenile delinquent. In regards to Grandmothers, their job is to be on the kids side. I know, I'm married to one.

  • starliner
    starliner
    Posted on:
    7th Nov 2011 11:57pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    starliner says: I totally agree. I have raised 5 children. The youngest is23yo and respect is the key word. You do not give in to bad behaviour. Children will push you to the limit if you let them. sometimes they can take it the other way. If you're not firm, they think you're not interested enough in their welfare. Sometimes we call it Tough Love!

  • Jenny
    Jenny
    Posted on:
    7th Oct 2013 01:02pm

    Lindy says: A lot of parents dont teach children to respect people ,I for one believe that a slap on the leg is needed sometimes and the dogooders should mind their own bloody business!!!

    Jenny says: Totally agree, where are the manners. I was taught to always say please and thank you and excuse me. It is sad, what is Australia coming too, the old values are long gone (in most cases).

  • 19chris51
    19chris51
    Posted on:
    23rd Nov 2010 10:28pm

    19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it again, they ruin society, I don`t say (and I have never ) beat a child, but a spank dosent go astray when they are naughty.
    Children are told from an early age (school) that they have rights and I believe they do, but on saying that so have parents, children need boundries,otherwise how do they grow up to be responsable, rational adults, no boundries............. thats what we see a lot in (not all) todays young people

  • marcia1945
    marcia1945
    Posted on:
    14th Apr 2011 06:52pm

    19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it...

    marcia1945 says: I totally agree that chrildren need to learn where the boundries are in life, otherwise we have them growing up to having no respect for any one, I don't know how it has got so bad that we have our 80 and 90 yr olds getting attacted in their own homes, is it because we have not taught them to have respect. I am worried for our next generation if this is not stopped soon.

  • 19chris51
    19chris51
    Posted on:
    14th Apr 2011 09:31pm

    marcia1945 says: I totally agree that chrildren need to learn where the boundries are in life, otherwise we have them growing up to having no respect for any one, I don't know how it has got so bad that we have our...

    19chris51 says: My daughter`s children, know where their boundries are, they push them at times as children have always done, but on the whole they are really good children, they squabble and argue between themselves,but when she says enough, they stop,(and that is always at home never out) I was with her one time, my grandson(who was aboat 4 at the time)threw a tantrum in K-Mart, she just said "fine, when you have finished your tantrum, I will come back for you," he learnt quick smart not to carry on, if she says NO,she means NO and I think that is some of what is missing, Say What You Mean AND Mean What You Say

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    29th Apr 2011 01:06pm

    19chris51 says: I totally agree with Lindy and Granma4, and I thank them for their coments, as i commented in an earlier post I`v seen some outlandish behaviour,and I am quite appualled, it is the do gooders at it...

    stretch says: but who is to say what is rational
    i may use social scicology on you and find anti social behaviour in the mum
    i would believe you to be a single mum
    no dad on seen
    a boyfriend
    a son
    and trying to keep the kid off the streets and in good company
    you dont have a year 10 leaving ticket
    am i right

  • 19chris51
    19chris51
    Posted on:
    30th Nov 2011 08:36pm

    stretch says: but who is to say what is rational
    i may use social scicology on you and find anti social behaviour in the mum
    i would believe you to be a single mum
    no dad on seen
    a boyfriend...

    19chris51 says: gee wiz stretch, you are so clever and absolutly WRONG, with everthing, I am afraid you will have to think again, and guess what I work in Media/Public Relations ! goodness where did you go wrong with your social scicology,guess again They are certificates!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    1st Dec 2011 11:13am

    19chris51 says: gee wiz stretch, you are so clever and absolutly WRONG, with everthing, I am afraid you will have to think again, and guess what I work in Media/Public Relations ! goodness where did you go wrong...

    stretch says: i lost my job 9 years ago after a small incodent with the law
    look at the facts if you hit some one sooner or later it will come back on you mine has been a long 9 years and i lived in a very abusive household as a child
    i believe kids of today need to be punished somehow but try not to hit strike bash or abuse them as it has a hand over effect
    good luck with the media as we all believe in freedom of speech and power to the people

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