Cafe Chat Discussion

  • Rainbow
    Rainbow
    Posted on:
    16th May 2011 01:27pm

    Last Post 20th Apr 2012
    Replies     147

    What are your observations on society and where it’s headed?

    Have we evolved into a narcissistic society, as the media have alleged? Do you think the importance of manners and etiquette is less essential? If you live in a country or regional area, is there more of a community spirit and comrade in your district? I really would love to hear your opinions on this issue so please do share your thoughts.

  • bernmar
    bernmar
    Posted on:
    16th May 2011 07:33pm

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is generated as in a younger person standing up on public transport for the elderly.

  • ellamay
    ellamay
    Posted on:
    16th May 2011 11:34pm

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    ellamay says: I agree with your comment. There is so much self centredness today and not a lot of people go out of their way to do things for others.

  • sandy
    sandy
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 04:18pm

    ellamay says: I agree with your comment. There is so much self centredness today and not a lot of people go out of their way to do things for others.

    sandy says: I agree with what you say. Therefore I make a point of helping people with doors,parcels or children if need be. I also make a point of thanking people who help me. I like to treat people how I like to be treated. if I see someone wearing a colour or an item that suits them I tell them.
    sandy

  • Poppy
    Poppy
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 07:17pm

    sandy says: I agree with what you say. Therefore I make a point of helping people with doors,parcels or children if need be. I also make a point of thanking people who help me. I like to treat people how I...

    Poppy says: I too try and do little things that help people, make them smile. The other day I helped an elderly lady cross the road. I t felt so good, and such a little thing to do. I think perhaps we are so pushed with time restraints (many self imposed) and pressures of work etc that we fail to take the time and appreciate how our attitudes are affecting others. Particularly visible on the motorways in the morning. A smile doesn't take any time, it does take effort but it's worth it. I think the natural disasters we have been facing, including our tornado up here on the Shore, brings one back down to earth. It has me, anyway.

  • CAT17
    CAT17
    Posted on:
    16th Jun 2011 05:09pm

    sandy says: I agree with what you say. Therefore I make a point of helping people with doors,parcels or children if need be. I also make a point of thanking people who help me. I like to treat people how I...

    CAT17 says: Wow you are my kind of people Sandy! I am now a senior (66) and have very silver hair and I find young people do give up their seat for me and smile at me. I sometimes worry about the way some people treat others, but I think there are still plenty of us out there who smile at each other, help each other and generally behave well. Manners are a little shaky with some, but if we all did the right thing by raising our children with manners and care for others, the human race will survive. Don't take what the media says too literally - they sure could use some manners!

  • Mazzs1
    Mazzs1
    Posted on:
    18th Jun 2011 09:28am

    CAT17 says: Wow you are my kind of people Sandy! I am now a senior (66) and have very silver hair and I find young people do give up their seat for me and smile at me. I sometimes worry about the way some...

    Mazzs1 says: I'm not far behind you in the age stakes and I find most young people are reactives not instigators. But our society has definitely changed with the rapid advances in technology it had to, unfortunately manners have suffered along with the written language. Mobile etiquette is my biggest bug-bear. I was at a funeral yesterday & people hadn't turned them off, and when out to dinner if you can't turn them off or onto silent then why go out. Years ago Telstra (then Telecom) wanted to bring in timed calls & everyone was up in arms about that, well people what do you think you have with mobile phones!!!
    Most people in the suburbs never talk to their neighbours & probably don't even know their name. When walking down the street or the the local shopping centre SMILE it costs you NOTHING.

  • CAT17
    CAT17
    Posted on:
    16th Jun 2011 05:09pm

    sandy says: I agree with what you say. Therefore I make a point of helping people with doors,parcels or children if need be. I also make a point of thanking people who help me. I like to treat people how I...

    CAT17 says: Wow you are my kind of people Sandy! I am now a senior (66) and have very silver hair and I find young people do give up their seat for me and smile at me. I sometimes worry about the way some people treat others, but I think there are still plenty of us out there who smile at each other, help each other and generally behave well. Manners are a little shaky with some, but if we all did the right thing by raising our children with manners and care for others, the human race will survive. Don't take what the media says too literally - they sure could use some manners!

  • Trimz
    Trimz
    Posted on:
    20th Apr 2012 07:31pm

    sandy says: I agree with what you say. Therefore I make a point of helping people with doors,parcels or children if need be. I also make a point of thanking people who help me. I like to treat people how I...

    Trimz says: i agree.

  • ral
    ral
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 09:34pm

    ellamay says: I agree with your comment. There is so much self centredness today and not a lot of people go out of their way to do things for others.

    ral says: since the QLD floods I have seen our community and region really come together as a community. On the day of the "super" storms (before Brisbane or Ipswich flooded) I witnessed unknown neighbours walking the streets during a break in the weather, carrying shovels and other tools offering assistance. As a thank you our neighbourhood got together and we basically had a week long street party during our flooded isolation. Neighbours became friends. We shared our supplies and resources. No one went without bread or milk. Men helped each other repair washed out driveways and recovering bogged in vehicles. Women made bread and hot meals and helped with the clean-ups. Then we went further afield, as the roads began to re-open to 4WD, and got supplies out to our neighbour's neighbours. Previously I would've agree with your comment on people being self-centred etc, but since those January floods I have seen true community spirit which has remained.

  • CAT17
    CAT17
    Posted on:
    16th Jun 2011 05:16pm

    ral says: since the QLD floods I have seen our community and region really come together as a community. On the day of the "super" storms (before Brisbane or Ipswich flooded) I witnessed unknown neighbours...

    CAT17 says: It is marvelous they way bad times bring out the best in mankind. I must admit I have never suffered from any kind of disaster (floods etc) but I am very much aware of how resilient people are and how they dust themselves off and get on with it! Aussies are so good at getting on with the job and it is a trait we are known for. "Come on Ossie come on come on" is very much how we are. What a great country we live in and what great people we are.

  • Mazzs1
    Mazzs1
    Posted on:
    18th Jun 2011 09:14am

    ral says: since the QLD floods I have seen our community and region really come together as a community. On the day of the "super" storms (before Brisbane or Ipswich flooded) I witnessed unknown neighbours...

    Mazzs1 says: Whilst that is great that you banded together it took a disaster to make you all come together. Let us know in 5 years time if that same spirit you have now is still the same.

  • Lee
    Lee
    Posted on:
    19th May 2011 12:06pm

    ellamay says: I agree with your comment. There is so much self centredness today and not a lot of people go out of their way to do things for others.

    Lee says: I agree I cannot believe how selfish and self centred people have become over the last few years. There is so much more of the gimme this, gimme that without any thought as to how it may occur. Unfortunately everyone leads busy lives, but there is no excuse for poor manners or the amount of violence and rage around. When you have children you bring them up with what you feel are good manners and belief in family bonds and doing the right thing by others - treat everyone as you yourself would like to be treated. It's a shame that society has changed the way some people feel about that.

  • malt
    malt
    Posted on:
    15th Jun 2011 08:32pm

    Lee says: I agree I cannot believe how selfish and self centred people have become over the last few years. There is so much more of the gimme this, gimme that without any thought as to how it may occur....

    malt says: I agree with the majority of comments although I believe a lot of it is to do with us living in the "now"generation. I was brought up in a world where if you didn't have the cash to b uy something you saved up un til you could. Everyone did the same thing. I believe that this meant that you valued your possessions far more than people do today and you respected other peoples property as you know what had to be done for them to get it. These days everybody wants everything now and they aren't prepared to work for it but get it on credit, interest free terms or some other means. There is no longer any respect amongst the younger generation (not all of them) for anyone elses property or in deed themselves. Everything is a quick fix, an adrenalin rush and few are willing to gain a work ethic but expect to get the top dollar from jobs which they b elieve they are entitled to just because they completed a course. I am disappointed with the majority of todays society and am horrified as to what may occur in the future.

  • vic
    vic
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 05:55am

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    vic says: I totally agree. Where have the days gone where people would stop and help others in the street - to cross the road, to carry the shopping. People in general however do not see people with a disability, In the past nine years I have had two operation on my leg due to an accident and have been blown away that people do not see that you are in a wheelchair or on crutches they just push past you let doors shut in your face. It only takes a few seconds to let the person hobblying/wheeling along to go through the gap first. Come on people opne your eyes.

  • 19chris51
    19chris51
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 10:20am

    vic says: I totally agree. Where have the days gone where people would stop and help others in the street - to cross the road, to carry the shopping. People in general however do not see people with a...

    19chris51 says: I am in total agreement with most of what is said, and I agree whole heartedly(if this how it is spelt) my son is disabled, and we see this all the time,people are very, very rude on a whole, and I am sorry to say its probably 50-50, as far as younger people and older people are concerned,I also had a father who was disabled (with Polio) , and let me tell you, with all of the hype (eg) disabled parks, disabled games and or other things that go around,people are NO better, in fact worse then they used to be with my Dad, the abuse we get(mainly from older people) when we use disabled parks, especially, where we live, it makes me so ugh ugh ugh.
    So my opinion is that a lot of the younger (not all) are a so full of themselves, they can not see anyone else, and a lot of old people(not all again) but a lot , are just so self rightous, and full of sympathy for themselves, and their age, people are on the whole just damn RUDE,(then again,not all).
    Our country and heaps of others from all I`v read is heading down a path, that is destroying our way of life,Heavens the Government and opposition is not doing too good either, with their manners, language and rudness (in Parliament debates) what can we expect from these examples.??????

  • cricky
    cricky
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 07:17am

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    cricky says: I totally agree with you.
    Gone are the days of manners, politeness, and in have come the cussing, fighting, more violence, more child death, a rapid increase in drug and alcohol abuse.
    Todays society has really gone to the gutter.

  • skinny649
    skinny649
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 05:18pm

    cricky says: I totally agree with you.
    Gone are the days of manners, politeness, and in have come the cussing, fighting, more violence, more child death, a rapid increase in drug and alcohol...

    skinny649 says: i am 70 years old and deliver circulars and i find the Rotorua Teens very friendly and respectful so much so i think of them as family and am sure if i was in trouble or at risk they would come to my aid

  • Doc
    Doc
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 08:38am

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    Doc says: I agree with you completely.
    You have expressed my sentiments better than I.

  • jen
    jen
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 12:49pm

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    jen says: I certainly agree with you as the young generation of today do not seem to value the older generation at all they do not appear to have any respect for their elders and appear to be a more selfish lot. But it all depends on how they are brought up. They do not appear to have a lot of patience, they see and want everything that is being advertised. Well who is to blame for all of this. I blame the media and the greedy advertising companies.

  • sandy
    sandy
    Posted on:
    17th May 2011 04:14pm

    bernmar says: Society has certainly changed in recent years. There seems to be more violence and more self centredness. Manners seem to be a thing of the past. It is so refreshing when an act of kindness is...

    sandy says: agree with all you said

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