Is it ok to be happy
Posted by: Rocky40
3rd Mar 2011 09:57am
My partner and I are blissfully happy and in love, but over the last six weeks we have had four sets of friends brake up. I now find that some of these people are now acting strange around us, like we aren't meant to be happy because they aren't. Both my partner and I have been married before so we know what they are going through and are trying to be supportive but it is hard when they are being short tempered and gloomy all the time when around us it really brings the mood down for everyone. My question to the world is have others found this among their friends, does it get better or have we lost our friends.
Ollie
- 9th Apr 2011 09:11pm
I agree with what you said Rocky, and also with some other posts.
People who are jealous, or compete, would not be much of a friend I do not think.
The people I regard as my friends are people who are happy for me to have things go well. They know me well enough to know that nothing is achieved without effort. Every one of my friends, I can find something in them to admire, as they can me. We honor that to each other.
Sure, I have lost people whom I thought were my friends, but I don't miss them and didn't need them for they were probably jealous of something, something they thought I had that perhaps they didn't, who knows, but I will not be treated less than I deserve, because of another's jealousy.... that is their problem, not mine.... it's a choice of theirs.
I have three sisters, but unfortunately two of them eternally compete, so I choose to not be around them much, for I cannot be bothered with their constant comparing and sarcasm, as it is too hurtful. Just because we are family does not make us similar thinkers, and though I care about them as 'family' I do not go out of my way to seek. One sister though is on my planet, and we both enjoy and honor the good things that happen to each of us.
You cannot live your life according to your so called friends rules. Do what you think is best for you and your partner, but cool from people who have their own selfish baggage. You don't need them actually.
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