Open Relationships

Posted by: Melada

31st Aug 2011 01:59pm

I would like to hear peoples thoughts on married couples who have so called (open relatinships), and who "arent" sexually active with each other, ie what does it mean to you, what restrictions (if any) should be placed on the partner (if only 1 of the couple is into seeking fun elsewhere) and the other 1 isnt interested.

Ollie

25th Sep 2011 07:59am

I don't think you are 'happy at the moment', maybe lonely and receptive of what you choose to tell yourself is love and attention. At one day a week, you are nowhere 'equal' to his other..... maybe second. You are being 'used' and flattered to keep this situation for his own self serving needs. What about your needs.... your mind wanders... assuming you want more.
Love has a basis of respect and trust, where you are nurtured and considered. There is none here. This male is buttering both sides of his bread for his own self serving greed. What an ego !!
If you truly thought this was enough for you, then you would not be writing the way you have here ....
Do you think this is all you deserve...? If this man has any ability to consider another, it is with the person he chooses to spend 6 days a week, not his sex toy... you! You would NEVER be able to trust this person, it's all about him, and then more, which you are enabling. This is not love!!!!! And whilst you fantasize about what could be, it is not reality .... but all in your head. This man will never give you a worthy relationship. You are nothing but a pawn in his /and his wife's game. His reality is with her.
As others have said, whilst you imagine you are so involved with this person, you are not open to finding 'real' love and commitment. See it for what it is...you are not special to him, just filling a void. See how quickly he will move on to someone else if you tell him its over.... because he can... so he will.
He knows how to flatter you to get what he wants. Don't you deserve more ???

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