Open Relationships

Posted by: Melada

31st Aug 2011 01:59pm

I would like to hear peoples thoughts on married couples who have so called (open relatinships), and who "arent" sexually active with each other, ie what does it mean to you, what restrictions (if any) should be placed on the partner (if only 1 of the couple is into seeking fun elsewhere) and the other 1 isnt interested.

Jasonmar

23rd Sep 2011 08:55am

In this day and age, it's a social risk to stand up for what is right in the sexual/relationship arena. The accusations flow too easily if we stand up to the whims of people's desires, which change like the wind.
One thing I know to be true, is that every action has a consequence, whether we deny it or not. We all have the power of choice and it is within that power of choice that we contribute positively or negatively towards each others lives.
Though the following statement could be judged as an antiquated moralistic point of view, my thoughts on the question are that human beings are made to enter into relationships with the intention of looking out for the needs of the other, not self-seeking. Rather than explore the supposed restrictions and rules that are meant to govern an 'open relationship', it would be prudent for the two people involved to sit down and assess whether there is a genuine interest and love for each other and discuss the motives that are currently keeping you together. There is a tremendous beauty and happiness to found in the commitment that two people make when they promise to share intimacy, both emotional and physical, with only each other. This endeavour, that takes much work and dedication, is a rewarding journey of discovery, exhilaration and pure pleasure.
In this brief statement you won't find all the answers, but it's a start and a thought to consider. I encourage you to continue looking for your answer with patience and clarity of mind. Use the many avenues we have available to us, whether it be people around us who we trust, that have successful relationships, the many books that offer council and guidance or the professionals who make themselves available to walk specifically through your queries/circumstance and offer possible solutions and/or strategies catered to your needs.
It is my sincerest desire that you find what your seek very soon.
It is your right/responsibility Melada and all our privilege as human beings to love and be loved in return. Let's honour each other with this love.

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