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  • JustSmile
    JustSmile
    Posted on:
    5th Feb 2011 02:59pm

    Last Post 15th Mar 2014
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    Charity is not all about money

    So many people think that charity is all about money, at 17 years old I believe this to be very untrue...to me charity is about giving what you can to help others...be it money, clothing, toys, food, blood or a little of your time....

    As a young child I remember packing up the toys I had out grown and giving them to an organization that re-gifted them to children that didnt have toys...
    this is a prime example of how even children can get into charity...and they are not giving up anything because its toys they dont play with...

    In 2007 and 2008 I shaved my head for children fighting cancer, alot of people kept telling me how brave I was for doing it (in 2007 I was one of 2 girls, in 2008 I was the only girl that did it) but in reality its the children that are fighting cancer who are brave because they often dont have a choice in loosing their hair...but I had a chocie and decided to do it not just to raise money and awearness but to also to gain understanding of how being bald can affect a childs life.
    During the 2008 headshave I met a little girl who had fought cancer, through talking to her family I learnt that just showing your support makes a pretty big impact...and money does not have to be involved.

    I really believe that donating money has nothing on donating time and a helping hand...



  • MacSas
    MacSas
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    10th Feb 2011 08:14am

    MacSas says: Man are you very grown up for your age!
    And you are one of the rare people that truly get it. Charity is from the heart, not always the hand.
    Sure there are needs for money to help others, but sometimes the best thing you can do for another person is to just spend time listening to them, taking them out, buying a gift they weren't expecting, taking their kids out for a treat (etc)
    People often complain that they don't have the money to support X Y and Z charities, but they have the hearts needed to do a little on the practical side. And most times its the practical stuff that means the most. Something as simple as just a treat or dropping a letter/card in the mail can mean the world to someone. My 6 year old niece is great at doing this kind of thing, thankfully following in my footsteps. I can't afford to donate money to all those I would love to, so I do things like knitting blankets for the Neo Natal Unint or the SPCA, and we both send cards to those that we know are feeling down (etc)

    Thank you for being such a stand up person! We need more young uns like you!

  • JustSmile
    JustSmile
    Posted on:
    10th Feb 2011 09:38am

    MacSas says: Man are you very grown up for your age!
    And you are one of the rare people that truly get it. Charity is from the heart, not always the hand.
    Sure there are needs for money to help others,...

    JustSmile says: Hi thanks!

    EXACTLY! I am so happy you feel the same and that at least one other person here gets it!

    Yes doing things like sending cards or flowers to someone who is unwell, knitting blankets or clothing for charity, lending and ear, or spending time helping someone often leaves more of an impact that handing someone money. I really wish that more people could understand this...

    It is so cool that you do that!

    I just made the short list for a job interveiw with a company that helps fundraise for five charities im unsure which ones yet but I really hope I get the job as this is something I am really good at and really passionate about.
    aprat from that last year I was organizing a fundraiser for a young mum who was fighting breast cancer, the strand she had was uncurable so she was told that if she wanted to live she would have to be on a medication called Tykerb for the rest of her life, Tykerb is not government funded so costs thousands of dollars a month. It was really easy to get John Key on board, he was really cool to help and Trelise Cooper but before we could hold the fundraiser the women we were doing it for passed away :(

    I wish more people could think out side the box and see the other ways to help people.


  • frannymanny
    frannymanny
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    24th Sep 2013 01:28pm

    MacSas says: Man are you very grown up for your age!
    And you are one of the rare people that truly get it. Charity is from the heart, not always the hand.
    Sure there are needs for money to help others,...

    frannymanny says: I too am a bit financially challanged as I get older but the wonderful thing about being retired and on an aged pension is that I have lots of time to volunteer . There is so much to do. An hour or two a week at the local hospice is inspiring.The auxilliary of the local hospital is always grateful for helpers. Helping out in the op shop is fun and you can pich up your own bargains. Vouluteering to teach English Conversation classes is very rewarding and you make wonderful friends. Mending and laundering op shop donations can be done at home .
    I am busier than I have ever been and contribution of time can generate money as well as comfort and quality of life. It is not just money that is required

  • neenie
    neenie
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    10th Feb 2011 12:06pm

    neenie says: i agree ,if a rich person gives money it does not mean a lot to him but if he gives time that could be invaluable.the causes i support mean a lot to me ,i have fostered 15 babies and toddlers and my health has put a stop to that but i got so much out of it that i can never put a value on it.just trying to make a bubs life better gave so much to me and them.

  • sallymc
    sallymc
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    15th Feb 2011 09:32pm

    sallymc says: Thanks for this and am thrilled to see younger people even thinking about charity. Often we do not discuss this with them. In the past most charity and giving was done through churches and this is not the way so much now. My own children have been heavily involved in some amazing causes and also fundraising. Each experience has been positive in a way that handing over money could never be. My son wanted to have his hair shaved but was told he was not old enough.... Since I have had cancer but not had chemo we have talked about it and think he understands more than many children would. Helping, volunteering gives to the charity but grows those that do it too.



  • JustSmile
    JustSmile
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    16th Feb 2011 05:49am

    JustSmile says: I believe that if a person gives from his wallet always then he is not giving from his heart...if one gives money they wont get to see/feel that they have helped. I hate to see the people who just dont understand the gravity of helping others as much as you can, be it giving time or meterial items...I really wish more parents would teach their children the gift of giving.

    Thank you all for popping into this thread and shearing your thoughts and opinions I really enjoy seeing what others have to say and knowing that there are others here that feel the same as me.



  • liz
    liz
    Posted on:
    16th Feb 2011 10:28am

    liz says: Great discussion and I totally agree. Everyone has the means to do something, even if you have no spare money. We still have a whole lot more than 3/4 of the world's people. At Christmas we all give 'useful gifts' to each other so families in 3rd world countries can benefit from a goat, a toilet, water well, schooling, health checks etc etc etc. There are many groups who have this scheme now.
    I also pack shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child through Samaritans Purse. I buy items all through the year and especially clothing in the after Christmas sales. Knitting blankets for Romania is another hobby, each evening while watching TV I can get through a square or two. We both volunteer with Foundations Worldwide, a Christian group focussing on Romania. Every little bit helps, and it gives one a global vision instead of inward looking self centred pointless 'me first' lifestyle.

  • chickclaire
    chickclaire
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    26th Jan 2014 12:23pm

    liz says: Great discussion and I totally agree. Everyone has the means to do something, even if you have no spare money. We still have a whole lot more than 3/4 of the world's people. At Christmas we all...

    chickclaire says: Great to hear someone inject a little Christianity into the discussion. I totally appreciate the effort you have made with Foundations Worldwide..and keep knitting those blankets!

  • liz
    liz
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    26th Jan 2014 02:28pm

    chickclaire says: Great to hear someone inject a little Christianity into the discussion. I totally appreciate the effort you have made with Foundations Worldwide..and keep knitting those blankets!

    liz says: Hello Chickclaire, thanks for your encouragement. Yes I'm still knitting blankets and am about to sew up number 12. Also have another 50 shoeboxes under way for this year, really get a lot of pleasure from this. Now I am on dialysis for kidney failure and hoping for a transplant some time soon.....live in hope!! We are still packing for Romania and have container number 7 3/4 full ready to send late March. At present collecting wheelchairs and wheely walkers for a man in Romania who deals with disabled children...and there are a lot of them. God has really blessed and provided for this ministry, so thank you for your comments. Bless you.

  • chickclaire
    chickclaire
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    27th Jan 2014 06:17pm

    liz says: Hello Chickclaire, thanks for your encouragement. Yes I'm still knitting blankets and am about to sew up number 12. Also have another 50 shoeboxes under way for this year, really get a lot of...

    chickclaire says: Good Luck with the dialysis and hope you successfully find a transplant donor. Due to people like you I am encouraged to love and worship God - whist still carrying our charitable deeds.

  • wendiau
    wendiau
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    16th Feb 2011 04:31pm

    wendiau says: Hiya...you are a very Brave 17 year old..and I really commend you for doing what you are doing....
    I am an Entertainer...and I go and sing for the Nursing Homes and Retirement Villages here in Sydney. I do this full time...and I am just gettng over my fight with Cancer. I had my left lung removed ( Sept 10) and had to stop singing due to this....I have since started back doing a few homes here and there...One of the homes..both Residents and Staff gave up their Kris Kringles and put the money into an envelope and gave it to me to help me thru the tough time of xmas....
    I believe that is Karma......
    and "JustSmile"... please keep doing what you are doing.. :)
    it will come back 10 fold...xo

  • JustSmile
    JustSmile
    Posted on:
    17th Feb 2011 09:17am

    wendiau says: Hiya...you are a very Brave 17 year old..and I really commend you for doing what you are doing....
    I am an Entertainer...and I go and sing for the Nursing Homes and Retirement Villages here in...

    JustSmile says: Hi

    Thank you but I am not the brave one...you are, making it through cancer and helping others the way you do!

    Its so cool that thay did that, and it sure is Karma!

    I will never stop...its my thing...its what I do, Helping people is my addiction.

    I wish you all the best for 2011
    xo

  • daisy
    daisy
    Posted on:
    18th Feb 2011 12:03am

    daisy says: why should charity be just about money some chartneed money some are looking for funds

  • none
    none
    Posted on:
    18th Feb 2011 06:08pm

    none says: Good on you, i agree with you completely i a a great granny and a recent widow but i still find to do voluntary work for St, Vincent de Paul. i pack and deliver food parcels and help with young Mums. I love love doing it.. However money does help. It enables us to do our work and some people simply don;t have time. At least they are doing something.

  • JustSmile
    JustSmile
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    27th Jun 2011 01:42pm

    none says: Good on you, i agree with you completely i a a great granny and a recent widow but i still find to do voluntary work for St, Vincent de Paul. i pack and deliver food parcels and help with young...

    JustSmile says: thank you for your thoughts, I really have enjoyed hearing everyones thoughts on this! I have not been here in a while so I have just re-read the replys and its amazing to feel the passion and love in them!

  • 19chris51
    19chris51
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    23rd Feb 2011 05:31pm

    19chris51 says: that is a beautiful attutide you have,your parents must be proud of the person you are! I feel very touched to read your coments as I believe they are very true,you are an execptional person, be very proud.........a beautiful person

  • CAT17
    CAT17
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    18th Mar 2011 12:47am

    CAT17 says: Congratulations people like you are worth their weight in gold. You are so right that charity is more than giving money (though ofcourse it is needed) Giving time and physical help means so much to those who are less fortunate. Keep up the good work and good luck with your future charity work.

  • fire1
    fire1
    Posted on:
    24th Mar 2011 02:53pm

    fire1 says: I agree, charity is about so much more than money, while money does have a big impact, finding volunteers these days is the growing concern for most charitys, paid volunteers take away from what the charity can give which is a lose lose situation.

  • Cynz
    Cynz
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    9th Apr 2011 01:43pm

    Cynz says: I would have to agree with everything you have said. In 2007 i Shaved my arse length Staright hair off to nothing for "Shave a lid for a kid" christmas fundraiser for the cancer ward at my local hospital, i had the longest hair there, and the mc thought i was mad as did all my friends, but when they realised what it was for the had respect for it but not the guts to do themselves. my ponytail was also donated to wig makers to make free wigs for the kids. it is four years on and my hair is still not quite the length it was back then...but i don't care. What i did had a huge impact on people around me and the public. i work in customer servises and the ammount of people that knew before and after the shaving was enough to have a huge impact.

    Sometimes we dont have the money to give but we can help in so many other ways and TOO many people don't realise that


  • Joydy
    Joydy
    Posted on:
    19th Apr 2011 09:55am

    Joydy says: Wow - you are very astute and I couldn't agree more. I have always done some volunteer work usually with children - in the Scout Movement helping out reading, cooking or in other ways at my childrens schools. But now retired and no children at home I have taken on different roles in different organisations. There is something for everyone. Working with children, the enviroment, with the elder, disabled or whatever you enjoy. So put you thinking caps on and do something for the community. You will benefit and it needn't cost you money just some of your time. And you are rewarded so much more than you give.
    Take an example from JustSmile and do your bit!


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