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  • chrissyGirl
    chrissyGirl
    Posted on:
    5th Feb 2011 08:35am

    Last Post 1st Jul 2012
    Replies     14

    Is there really only one person for you?

    If so, what happens if you've already had your chance with him/her?
    do you move on? do you let them no?.. what if your still close friends, in other relationships but no you both have feelings for each other?

  • montypython
    montypython
    Posted on:
    18th Feb 2011 05:07pm

    montypython says: If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

    I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that it's possible to find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and to make that happen.

  • Falcon1987
    Falcon1987
    Posted on:
    23rd May 2011 11:06am

    montypython says: If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

    I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that...

    Falcon1987 says: Wow, Took the words right out of my mouth..

  • zee
    zee
    Posted on:
    19th Feb 2011 12:13pm

    zee says: I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter.

  • zee
    zee
    Posted on:
    19th Feb 2011 12:27pm

    zee says: I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter.

  • Ollie
    Ollie
    Posted on:
    22nd Feb 2011 03:05pm

    Ollie says: Nup! There is NOT a one and only! Some will be more/less suitable, more/less rewarding, deeper/shallower perhaps. I don't think any relationship is perfect, but you cannot compare. Every relationship we have is unique.... because people are different.
    When you move on from a relationship, I believe you can still care about that person, but not as deep or intimate...maybe like a member of the family, Feelings, might be about loyalty, habit, guilt, regret and caring. What feelings? Sexual ? You can't act on all the feelings you have for others.....
    I care that my ex is ok because he is essentially a good man and the father of my children, and we had some good times and grew up a lot together.
    I value that was part of who we are today, much wiser, learning perhaps from mistakes made with him.
    If you think there is a one and only, I think you may never find it. if he was 'it' you'd still be together.
    I think life is about making the best of what is possible/available/offered !!!


  • Shay-Dee
    Shay-Dee
    Posted on:
    22nd Feb 2011 10:29pm

    Shay-Dee says: I think it varies from person to person, but if you are no longer compatible then YES, move on.

    It's not fair on yourself OR the other person if you stay together just for the sake of companionship :)

    You can still have feelings for someone after you seperate, its hard not to when you have shared such intimate special moments. But you have to remember that whatever made you seperate in the first place, has not changed, so that will still be an issue.

  • lamyaa
    lamyaa
    Posted on:
    24th May 2011 11:15pm

    lamyaa says: I personally don't think there's one person for me.....if someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :)

  • lamyaa
    lamyaa
    Posted on:
    24th May 2011 11:19pm

    lamyaa says: If someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :)

  • stretch
    stretch
    Posted on:
    1st Jun 2011 02:03pm

    stretch says: it depends was the breakup your choice or the law
    did some one steal the heart of another
    or
    did the fights just keep on adding up
    think with the brain where matters of the heart come to mind

  • cooki
    cooki
    Posted on:
    6th Jun 2011 11:18am

    cooki says: hmm I've often wonder thaat is there really just one person for you/me for some there is foranothers it has and was but the chance has gone by for them i have friends that were made for each other but unfortunely couldn't live to together without fighting all time so decided to part.
    The silly thing about it is that they've remained friends despite the fact they now have new partners so I guess it does and it doesn't work to some degree


  • Sharon
    Sharon
    Posted on:
    3rd Aug 2011 08:22am

    Sharon says: I believe there is only ever one person for us all, our true soul mate and it may not be the most obvious person in your world. Did I have my soul mate? Yes I did, but it was not meant to be, but we are still as close as ever despite being on a different path to each other.


  • Lisa-Jo
    Lisa-Jo
    Posted on:
    11th Oct 2011 01:03pm

    Lisa-Jo says: It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us.

  • gk
    gk
    Posted on:
    1st Jul 2012 11:47am

    Lisa-Jo says: It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us.

    gk says: I prefer to live as "there is only one person for me while we are in a committed relationship." All women are beautiful, and attractive; in their own individual ways. I have"fallen in love" with women of different nationalities; become engaged to two; married two (legitimately); had one child within each marriage. Until aged mid-twenties, I really was not sufficiently matured to sustain a very long-term relationship. I always believed that parenting was best reserved for persons who had first discovered / come to terms with themselves; their quirks and frailties. My son was born when I was 37 years of age, and he benefits from having parents who really are "grown ups." It also helps to have a stable, established relationship, a career, some degree of financial stability: before adding children to the equation. Coping with sleep deprivation for the first two years is often a drain on the best adult relationships, so I strongly recommend 'family planning.' I advocate genetic screening / amnioscentesis at week 12-13 of pregnancy; because there is no logical reason to carry an early-disadvantaged fetus to term. There are very real financial and resource constraints involved with bringing up and supporting lesser-abled citizens. If it is a sentimental / religious luxury you can afford; by all means give that growing clump of human cells a chance at independent life, but do not expect any public funds to indulge your private hopes and dreams ! Take care out there ! ! !

  • lane
    lane
    Posted on:
    22nd Jun 2012 12:09pm

    lane says: There's only one man for me. Met him when I was 16, married him when I was 18 and have not been married 38 years. It only gets better. In the early days we argued a lot as we got to know each other, then you grow together and start to like the same things, then you know what the other person would say and you develop a sense of relaxation and comfort. I believe we will be together forever.

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