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Is there really only one person for you?

If so, what happens if you've already had your chance with him/her?
do you move on? do you let them no?.. what if your still close friends, in other relationships but no you both have feelings for each other? Reply

Last reply: 1st Jul 2012 / 14 replies / Post by chrissyGirl

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montypython

Posted by: montypython
Posted: 18th Feb 2011

montypython says: If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that it's possible to find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and to make that happen. Reply

Falcon1987

Posted by: Falcon1987
Posted: 23rd May 2011

montypython says: If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that...

Falcon1987 says: Wow, Took the words right out of my mouth.. Reply

zee

Posted by: zee
Posted: 19th Feb 2011

zee says: I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter. Reply

zee

Posted by: zee
Posted: 19th Feb 2011

zee says: I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter. Reply

Ollie

Posted by: Ollie
Posted: 22nd Feb 2011

Ollie says: Nup! There is NOT a one and only! Some will be more/less suitable, more/less rewarding, deeper/shallower perhaps. I don't think any relationship is perfect, but you cannot compare. Every relationship we have is unique.... because people are different.
When you move on from a relationship, I believe you can still care about that person, but not as deep or intimate...maybe like a member of the family, Feelings, might be about loyalty, habit, guilt, regret and caring. What feelings? Sexual ? You can't act on all the feelings you have for others.....
I care that my ex is ok because he is essentially a good man and the father of my children, and we had some good times and grew up a lot together.
I value that was part of who we are today, much wiser, learning perhaps from mistakes made with him.
If you think there is a one and only, I think you may never find it. if he was 'it' you'd still be together.
I think life is about making the best of what is possible/available/offered !!!
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Shay-Dee

Posted by: Shay-Dee
Posted: 22nd Feb 2011

Shay-Dee says: I think it varies from person to person, but if you are no longer compatible then YES, move on.

It's not fair on yourself OR the other person if you stay together just for the sake of companionship :)

You can still have feelings for someone after you seperate, its hard not to when you have shared such intimate special moments. But you have to remember that whatever made you seperate in the first place, has not changed, so that will still be an issue. Reply

lamyaa

Posted by: lamyaa
Posted: 24th May 2011

lamyaa says: I personally don't think there's one person for me.....if someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :) Reply

lamyaa

Posted by: lamyaa
Posted: 24th May 2011

lamyaa says: If someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :) Reply

stretch

Posted by: stretch
Posted: 1st Jun 2011

stretch says: it depends was the breakup your choice or the law
did some one steal the heart of another
or
did the fights just keep on adding up
think with the brain where matters of the heart come to mind Reply

cooki

Posted by: cooki
Posted: 6th Jun 2011

cooki says: hmm I've often wonder thaat is there really just one person for you/me for some there is foranothers it has and was but the chance has gone by for them i have friends that were made for each other but unfortunely couldn't live to together without fighting all time so decided to part.
The silly thing about it is that they've remained friends despite the fact they now have new partners so I guess it does and it doesn't work to some degree
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Sharon

Posted by: Sharon
Posted: 3rd Aug 2011

Sharon says: I believe there is only ever one person for us all, our true soul mate and it may not be the most obvious person in your world. Did I have my soul mate? Yes I did, but it was not meant to be, but we are still as close as ever despite being on a different path to each other.
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Lisa-Jo

Posted by: Lisa-Jo
Posted: 11th Oct 2011

Lisa-Jo says: It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us. Reply

gk

Posted by: gk
Posted: 1st Jul 2012

Lisa-Jo says: It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us.

gk says: I prefer to live as "there is only one person for me while we are in a committed relationship." All women are beautiful, and attractive; in their own individual ways. I have"fallen in love" with women of different nationalities; become engaged to two; married two (legitimately); had one child within each marriage. Until aged mid-twenties, I really was not sufficiently matured to sustain a very long-term relationship. I always believed that parenting was best reserved for persons who had first discovered / come to terms with themselves; their quirks and frailties. My son was born when I was 37 years of age, and he benefits from having parents who really are "grown ups." It also helps to have a stable, established relationship, a career, some degree of financial stability: before adding children to the equation. Coping with sleep deprivation for the first two years is often a drain on the best adult relationships, so I strongly recommend 'family planning.' I advocate genetic screening / amnioscentesis at week 12-13 of pregnancy; because there is no logical reason to carry an early-disadvantaged fetus to term. There are very real financial and resource constraints involved with bringing up and supporting lesser-abled citizens. If it is a sentimental / religious luxury you can afford; by all means give that growing clump of human cells a chance at independent life, but do not expect any public funds to indulge your private hopes and dreams ! Take care out there ! ! ! Reply

lane

Posted by: lane
Posted: 22nd Jun 2012

lane says: There's only one man for me. Met him when I was 16, married him when I was 18 and have not been married 38 years. It only gets better. In the early days we argued a lot as we got to know each other, then you grow together and start to like the same things, then you know what the other person would say and you develop a sense of relaxation and comfort. I believe we will be together forever. Reply

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