Posted by: Ollie
Posted: 22nd Feb 2011
Nup! There is NOT a one and only! Some will be more/less suitable, more/less rewarding, deeper/shallower perhaps. I don't think any relationship is perfect, but you cannot compare. Every relationship we have is unique.... because people are different.
When you move on from a relationship, I believe you can still care about that person, but not as deep or intimate...maybe like a member of the family, Feelings, might be about loyalty, habit, guilt, regret and caring. What feelings? Sexual ? You can't act on all the feelings you have for others.....
I care that my ex is ok because he is essentially a good man and the father of my children, and we had some good times and grew up a lot together.
I value that was part of who we are today, much wiser, learning perhaps from mistakes made with him.
If you think there is a one and only, I think you may never find it. if he was 'it' you'd still be together.
I think life is about making the best of what is possible/available/offered !!!