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Love or lust?

Here is my question. What is better ???? LOVE or LUST.
From experience my opinion would be that although love is grand when you are in love with someone, the problem is it tends to end and end bad. Where lust is pure physical attraction... you don't have to worry about if they snore or if they leave their socks on the floor or don't put down the toilet seat, it is pure physical attraction that may last one night or one month but never ever becomes anything serious and you never get the chance to be bored of each other...
Love is being able to sit in the same room as someon and there not be awkward silences.. no need to try and fill in the gaps, knowing each other very well, knowing that when you come home he or she is there waiting for you and will be happy to see you..

Both have there ups and downs, I'm just curious to see who would choose one over the other and why.... Reply

Last reply: 7th Jun 2012 / 30 replies / Post by Ralphy

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GK

Posted by: GK
Posted: 3rd Dec 2010

GK says: I go for Love. While lust is fantastic knock your socks off fun it can turn ugly pretty quick. I spent my years from 16 to 30 in lust with lots of people. Only three had any mutual Love attatched, several had one sided love. Mainly you end up feeling like people only want you for your body and not the "Real You" and that can end up being pretty shallow and lonely. Reply

Ralphy

Posted by: Ralphy
Posted: 8th Dec 2010

GK says: I go for Love. While lust is fantastic knock your socks off fun it can turn ugly pretty quick. I spent my years from 16 to 30 in lust with lots of people. Only three had any mutual Love attatched,...

Ralphy says: You know, there is nothing wrong with a bit of each. I think the true winning way is to be in love but not to let go of the lust side with your partner.... If you can keep that side of it strong it would and should only make your love even stronger. Then there would be no need to be going out looking for it elsewhere.... Like you when I was younger and single, I went out with no intent of getting into as relationship.. I used and was used in return but it was a mutual thing so no one got hurt, now as Im getting older....... mind you an open relationship with someone of similar tastes and desires could be a good thing too as it would allow you to have both... nothing like wanting your cake and eating it too lol Reply

kay

Posted by: kay
Posted: 18th Dec 2010

Ralphy says: You know, there is nothing wrong with a bit of each. I think the true winning way is to be in love but not to let go of the lust side with your partner.... If you can keep that side of it strong it...

kay says: dear Ralph it seems there are a lot with this attitude these days...i dont think its so good. a real relationship is a great friendship; a soul mate unconditional love; fun; sharing and enjoying each other in every way and growing spiritually together...i know sounds corny to some but ive been through the wringer with guys and there are some out there that feel the same as i do...and so many that just want a screw...wheres your need for enlightenment....get ur head out of ur pants and grow up. Reply

kay

Posted by: kay
Posted: 18th Dec 2010

GK says: I go for Love. While lust is fantastic knock your socks off fun it can turn ugly pretty quick. I spent my years from 16 to 30 in lust with lots of people. Only three had any mutual Love attatched,...

kay says: hi guys yes i prefer to be in love as feeling used is horrible and im looking for that passion now ... where are u my love. Reply

suziq

Posted by: suziq
Posted: 27th Dec 2010

GK says: I go for Love. While lust is fantastic knock your socks off fun it can turn ugly pretty quick. I spent my years from 16 to 30 in lust with lots of people. Only three had any mutual Love attatched,...

suziq says: I go for Love it lasts a lot longer but lust is good to especially when your young but Love wins hands down for me.
yes lust can be lonley at times. Reply

padke

Posted by: padke
Posted: 14th Feb 2012

GK says: I go for Love. While lust is fantastic knock your socks off fun it can turn ugly pretty quick. I spent my years from 16 to 30 in lust with lots of people. Only three had any mutual Love attatched,...

padke says: Love is forever ....lust is just for the moment Reply

stewart

Posted by: stewart
Posted: 8th Dec 2010

stewart says: I found that even thou Love is grand the devorce cost me 64 grand. One can do both to spice up their love life. Reply

j4

Posted by: j4
Posted: 8th Dec 2010

j4 says: It started off as LUST on both sides but turned in to LOVE. All went really good for 4 yrs then the wheels fell off.She went off her meds and when she came out of Hospital she went to live with her Daughter. She said that she did not want any thing to do with me ever again. 8 months later she came back. 2 years later the same thing happened again. When she came out of Hospital this time she went to live with her X. Then after I had started DIvorce proceedings (8 months) she turned up at the door and asked if she could come back. This time I said no. She went back to her daughter. The divorce cost me over $110,000.
Never again. Now I would take LUST only. Reply

bren

Posted by: bren
Posted: 18th Dec 2010

bren says: I'd definitely choose love. OK, emotionally you can go from the highest highs to the lowest lows - but when you look into the eyes of the one you love, and you just melt like butter .... and make love while you are in that zone .... it beats lust any day!
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Lani6

Posted by: Lani6
Posted: 18th Dec 2010

Lani6 says: love. love. love. love! Lust alone is no comparison. Love comes with lust. And you can tell you've got a good one when the lust is still there, years and years later. My relationship of 4 years has been the most rewarding, enjoyable experience of my life. I wouldn't trade that in for 4 years worth of hook-ups. No way. Reply

kay

Posted by: kay
Posted: 18th Dec 2010

Lani6 says: love. love. love. love! Lust alone is no comparison. Love comes with lust. And you can tell you've got a good one when the lust is still there, years and years later. My relationship of 4 years has...

kay says: u go girl ... love forever Reply

passum

Posted by: passum
Posted: 21st Dec 2010

kay says: u go girl ... love forever

passum says: What we all should think about in any relationship love should be forever, not tempory. Where lust is a one night stand to be forgotton about. Nothing beets love sweet love I wonder who ever came up with that saying. Reply

virgo

Posted by: virgo
Posted: 1st Mar 2011

virgo says: love is better because it lasts a lifetime where lust is in the moment Reply

virgo

Posted by: virgo
Posted: 1st Mar 2011

virgo says: love is better because it lasts a lifetime where lust is in the moment it is also good to be lustful towards your partener i still am after 25years of marrige Reply

woodie

Posted by: woodie
Posted: 12th Jan 2012

virgo says: love is better because it lasts a lifetime where lust is in the moment it is also good to be lustful towards your partener i still am after 25years of marrige

woodie says: I agree. I have been married to a great guy for over 26 years but sometimes a bit of lust would be nice. He looks at pictures of thin women in very little clothing and yet doesn't seem to look at me like that. Even though I'm disabled, I still have desires and often try for attention that rarely leads to results. The only time he shows interests is when he suddenly feels the mood. I know he works hard and is in a lot of pain but his actions have left me with a very low opinion of my body image. I'm not overweight but feel fat and ugly..In every other way, he is caring and thoughtful. I just wish he could see my needs at times. Reply

gk

Posted by: gk
Posted: 30th Dec 2011

gk says: It al depends upon one's level of emotional and personal character maturity. Reply

Lady Blue

Posted by: Lady Blue
Posted: 3rd Mar 2012

Lady Blue says: Love is better for the long haul and definitely Lust for the passion, because in my opinion Love loses the passion after awhile, but lust... Reply

LastTimeLord

Posted by: LastTimeLord
Posted: 5th Mar 2012

Lady Blue says: Love is better for the long haul and definitely Lust for the passion, because in my opinion Love loses the passion after awhile, but lust...

LastTimeLord says: Hi Lady Blue

I hope love never loses the passion and I can't believe that you can have love without lust! Reply

Lady Blue

Posted by: Lady Blue
Posted: 5th Mar 2012

LastTimeLord says: Hi Lady Blue

I hope love never loses the passion and I can't believe that you can have love without lust!

Lady Blue says: Hi DalekLord, twenty odd years ago that would have been true, than Love meant something, unfortunately nowadays the Lust is more passionate if the encounter is spontaneous. Eh...my friends say i am cynical but i believe that because Life has become so busy and technical and i will say animated that Love is now a second factor rather then the other way around. Hot, sweaty passionate Lust is in and Love factors in later! And that's when it becomes boring, and same old. Reply

LastTimeLord

Posted by: LastTimeLord
Posted: 5th Mar 2012

Lady Blue says: Hi DalekLord, twenty odd years ago that would have been true, than Love meant something, unfortunately nowadays the Lust is more passionate if the encounter is spontaneous. Eh...my friends say i am...

LastTimeLord says: Hi Lady Blue

I was around twenty (extremely) odd years ago and I find it interesting that 'spontaneous' is the new black. To quote Shakespeare
"How weary, stale, flat and unprofitable
Seem to me all the uses of this world?
Fie on't, a fie!"
-Hamlet, Act I, Scene ii, Lines 133-135
Thanks for the reply Reply

Lady Blue

Posted by: Lady Blue
Posted: 5th Mar 2012

LastTimeLord says: Hi Lady Blue

I was around twenty (extremely) odd years ago and I find it interesting that 'spontaneous' is the new black. To quote Shakespeare
"How weary, stale, flat and unprofitable...

Lady Blue says: " You said it" or rather Shakespeare did! There are very few long marriages now compared to the twenty odd years ago.
There are many new blacks in this world today DalekLord.
And thank you also.
Sorry my knowledge of Shakespeare is somewhat limited am afraid, am more the Sci-Fi Fantasy myself. Reply

LastTimeLord

Posted by: LastTimeLord
Posted: 6th Mar 2012

Lady Blue says: " You said it" or rather Shakespeare did! There are very few long marriages now compared to the twenty odd years ago.
There are many new blacks in this world today DalekLord.
And thank you...

LastTimeLord says: Quite into Sci-Fi Fantasy as well but forced myself to wade through a selection of classics. Found that so many themes have been recycled in modern writing but enjoy the liberation of the imagination with sci-fi and fantasy. Reply

Lady Blue

Posted by: Lady Blue
Posted: 6th Mar 2012

LastTimeLord says: Quite into Sci-Fi Fantasy as well but forced myself to wade through a selection of classics. Found that so many themes have been recycled in modern writing but enjoy the liberation of the...

Lady Blue says: Indeed with Sci-Fi fantasy the limits are your imagination and the best thing i love most about writing in this genre is that there are absolutely no boundaries or rules. I have started writing a book, but have had to put it on hold at the moment because as usual Life intervenes in ones dreams and aspirations, but i very much look forward to getting back to the continuation of my imagination. it is at this moment under wraps what the story is about only very near & dear to me know what it is about and even then they are under strict instructions not to reveal or they will DIE! My son is doing the illustrations for the book he is also an animator so i am very fortunate to have him on board although he is charging me 'no family rates here am afraid,' but that's cool he has to earn a living like everyone else. Anyway DalekLord take care hope my rambling did not put you off. Reply

LastTimeLord

Posted by: LastTimeLord
Posted: 6th Mar 2012

Lady Blue says: Indeed with Sci-Fi fantasy the limits are your imagination and the best thing i love most about writing in this genre is that there are absolutely no boundaries or rules. I have started writing a...

LastTimeLord says: I wish you well with your book; I have neither the talent nor the perseverance to work on a book. Please, when you have finished, let me know. I can guarantee you at least one sale! Reply

Lady Blue

Posted by: Lady Blue
Posted: 6th Mar 2012

LastTimeLord says: I wish you well with your book; I have neither the talent nor the perseverance to work on a book. Please, when you have finished, let me know. I can guarantee you at least one sale!

Lady Blue says: Thank you for your well wishes, DalekLord, take care. Reply

randomguy227

Posted by: randomguy227
Posted: 10th Mar 2012

randomguy227 says: I'd say love is better, because it allows you to have someone who will always be there for you, to support you. Which is better than just a one night stand. Reply

Lastcardlouis

Posted by: Lastcardlouis
Posted: 14th Apr 2012

Lastcardlouis says: I've had plenty of both and I have to say that absolutely nothing beats pure unbridled lust if the feeling is mutual, but it's no way to start a relationship. Long term, love is what you need (I think there might be a song in that...). Reply

mischh75

Posted by: mischh75
Posted: 21st Apr 2012

mischh75 says: LOL, At this moment, id take either, im desperate. Although love is cool cos you get hugs ... Reply

mischh75

Posted by: mischh75
Posted: 21st Apr 2012

mischh75 says: And when i hear of others and all the shenanigans they get up to, i feel as though i have had no life, and i start thinking im getting old and if no love or lust happens then im kinda getting rorted on the whole life experience thing, know what i mean? Reply

bec

Posted by: bec
Posted: 7th Jun 2012

bec says: I think you do have to worry about it because everybody should pick up after themselves and have respect Reply

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