Posted by: blondie72
Posted: 28th Nov 2010
I agree entirely with all you have said here Ralphy and my heart goes out to you. Firstly I must say I was a single Mum of 1 with a drop kick Ex who never payed maintenance so I have not been in your situation but my best friend and her new husband have and are still currently in the exact same situation as you. Largely, you can thank the drop kick fathers/mothers who shirk their responsibilities (such as my ex) for causing the Government to lump all non custodial parents into the same category.
In my friends case her new husband had two kids to his Ex wife, ex wife got everything in the divorce - house, cars, furniture, the lot and then refused to let him see the kids because he had found someone new. Meanwhile, she meets and marries a new husband and together they open up a business - a business that they purposely run at a loss and they pay themselves a wage.
He now has tow little children as well to my friend, both under 6yo and a mortgage, car loan, utlities, rates, and school fees etc... to pay for as well but CS don't care less that some weeks he is flat out putting food on the table and his Ex is living the life of a millionaire!
He doesn't begrudge paying his CS but what he begrudges is that he almost always has to work overtime to stay afloat and when he does the taxman gets some and so does CS (the EX)........its hardly worth getting a higher paying job or doing overtime only for the taxman & the EX to get most of it.
At present he is looking into paying her out - apparently CS has informed him that he can pay her out - so now he is hoping and praying he can borrow the $50,000 it will take to pay her out so he can get a better job and work a heap more overtime. The way I see it, it will be worth to get her out of his life after the way she has treated him and turned his kids against him.
CS need to treat each case individually (means test) and like you said - make the custodial parent provide proof that the CS money is going to the kids and down the necks of poker machines or up the arms of junkies or anywhere it shouldn't be going! Reply