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  • VivK
    VivK
    Posted on:
    16th Nov 2010 10:37pm

    Last Post 30th Jun 2012
    Replies     43

    Random acts of kindness

    Have you done something just for the good feeling it gave you - like giving up your seat on the bus for someone, opened a door for someone, helped someone you didnt even know? Or has a stranger done something for you that made you feel good all over? Tell us about it here.

  • cat
    cat
    Posted on:
    25th Nov 2010 12:52pm

    cat says: yesterday at the supermarket an elderly couple came up behind me in the checkout aisle and i suggested they go ahead of me as a bit of respect to my elders

  • grandmahawk
    grandmahawk
    Posted on:
    30th Nov 2010 02:55pm

    grandmahawk says: The day before our wedding, we were driving along and I saw an old man fall down in his front garden rose bed. We turned back and helped him and my husband alerted his family.
    On our wedding day which was in the depths of winter the weather was fine with a light breeze and 26C. I think that was our unlooked for reward.:)

  • Muskrat
    Muskrat
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 08:08pm

    Muskrat says: We live in a bayside surburb.my friends and I have a policy pay it forward.recently a lady needed bus fare to get home i offered and when she asked how could she pay me back i told her to pay it forward meaning the next time she saw someone who need help just help them,i have helped a few people like this some short at the checkout or even in a fruit shop,i think if the world took this attitude then maybe we could get along together,instead of thinking of just our problems,(which i know people have many)some people like to help but don't know how they will be treated,all i can say is the smile i get is thanks enough knowing i have helped in a small wy

  • Ekkaboy
    Ekkaboy
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 08:27pm

    Muskrat says: We live in a bayside surburb.my friends and I have a policy pay it forward.recently a lady needed bus fare to get home i offered and when she asked how could she pay me back i told her to pay it...

    Ekkaboy says: Yo Muskrat - I love the "pay it forward" philosophy - I teach it to my kids as karma (tho I was raised a strict - now very lapsed - catholic!!!!)

  • bliss
    bliss
    Posted on:
    21st Apr 2012 09:39am

    Muskrat says: We live in a bayside surburb.my friends and I have a policy pay it forward.recently a lady needed bus fare to get home i offered and when she asked how could she pay me back i told her to pay it...

    bliss says: payforward is brilliant idea
    they made a film about it and it was clear
    that the small simple kindness has a ripple effect
    can make the world a better place a river t an ocean is an idea to expect
    jeannie bliss

  • Ekkaboy
    Ekkaboy
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 08:24pm

    Ekkaboy says: I was walking past the primary school that my kids attend and saw a frail elderly lady having trouble carrying a stack of wrapped Chrissy pressies. I helped her carry them to the teachers she wanted to deliver to - the teachers (who I actually knew as in previous years they had taught my own kids) were obviously very pleased with their pressies. Turned out the father (this lady's son) and the mother had recently had a rather acrimonious split, and the father had just relocated with the kids to the area. The grandma was really impressed with the special attention the teachers had provided to the kids to help them settle in, in this nasty time for the poor kids, so she'd gone out of her way to get them presents - and my help has just reinforced her newfound belief in the strength and friendliness of our local community.

  • penszen
    penszen
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 08:44pm

    penszen says: I'll never forget when a young homeless man from our neighbourhood offered my 4 year old some of his fish and chips. I'd seen him around, always barefoot, even through winter, and possibly with a mental illness. We happened to be sitting on the bench next to him one day and we offered my son a chip or two. It was such a lovely generous, thoughtful thing to do from someone who obviously didn't have much but was willing to share it anyway.

  • gardenbutterfly
    gardenbutterfly
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 09:19pm

    gardenbutterfly says: I watched a very distracted/ harried bank teller serve the two people in front of me and my son. When it came our turn she was polite and said all the right things but was just flat and monotoned. Knowing how I was suffering the prechristmas blues I proceeded to the local bakery and bought a festive cupcake. I returned to the teller , her face lit up in astonishment. I hope the rest of her day was a little brighter! My children tell me I am embarrassing because I often find myself doing little things for others when out and about but I hope as they grow up they are kind enough to perform their own RAKs...............


  • Jess25
    Jess25
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 05:40pm

    gardenbutterfly says: I watched a very distracted/ harried bank teller serve the two people in front of me and my son. When it came our turn she was polite and said all the right things but was just flat and monotoned....

    Jess25 says: Hello gardenbutterfly, so nice to meet a kindred spirit, my two kids(24 & 14 girls) also find my helpful ways a little embarassing but I know it is rubbing off on them as my eldest daughter has embraced the tradition of purchasing a gift for the Kmart wishing tree at Christmas time and she also buys 'The Big Issue' magazine and my youngest has handed in a purse that she found, I have witnessed both my girls perform small but very important acts of kindness sometimes without even realizing it and it makes me a proud mum, so you keep doing what you're doing and making the world a better place and your kids better people, they are lucky to have such a lovely, kind mum and I reckon they know it. Have a lovely day.

  • cupcake40au
    cupcake40au
    Posted on:
    17th Dec 2010 11:58pm

    cupcake40au says: I have just come home from a bus trip looking at xmas lights. The couple who organised this did so at their own expense to take "single" people on an outing who dont have partners to go with. They hired the 49 seater coach, we toured around, went to maccas where they shouted everyone ice creams, then went driving some more ending up at a wonderful display of lights at a church where again they paid for us all to have a drink and cake or donuts. These 2 people would have to be the most unselfish kind caring couple I have ever come across .. they get enjoyment out of giving to others.

  • Doc
    Doc
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 09:33am

    Doc says: Hi Viv,
    I have both given & received R A O K.
    On the giving, as a trained first aider, I like to give help when I can.
    I have also just helped people pick up spilled groceries. Simple things like that.

    On the receiving; Not long ago at a big shopping centre I had some keys cut & didn't have enough money to pay the full price.
    A complete stranger nearby just walked up to the counter & handed the man $10 & said take it out oif that.
    I couldn't thank the stranger enough.
    Gary

  • mae
    mae
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 11:40am

    mae says: i have a sticker on my car that says' practice random acts of kindness', it certainly reminds me whilst driving to let someone else go first or get the car space

  • VivK
    VivK
    Posted on:
    19th Dec 2010 01:21pm

    mae says: i have a sticker on my car that says' practice random acts of kindness', it certainly reminds me whilst driving to let someone else go first or get the car space

    VivK says: Its always nice when someone lets you merge in or indicates to let you go first when driving, Makes the experience so much nicer. I always try and let others in or go first if I can but there are so many aggressive drivers out there who make it hard for the nice ones.

  • cedar51
    cedar51
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 12:51pm

    cedar51 says: A few months ago, a well dress young man got onto my train and when the ticket guy came to get him ticketed - he handed over his EFTPOS card but the guy couldn't do it that way - you either have to have cash or a pre-paid ticket.

    the young man was ratting around in his pockets and briefcase but couldn't come up with the right amount...so I just called out

    "how do you need?" and then paid his fare to the city...

    the rest of the carriage kept looking at me, as if I was some sort of freak and the young man finally came over to me, wanted my contact but I said "no problems, do a good deed for someone else"

    apparently, he never caught the train but had to drop his car off for service in my suburb and then thought "I'll get the train" obviously he hadn't thought through the whole thing - need fare!!

  • Jess25
    Jess25
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 05:45pm

    cedar51 says: A few months ago, a well dress young man got onto my train and when the ticket guy came to get him ticketed - he handed over his EFTPOS card but the guy couldn't do it that way - you either have to...

    Jess25 says: ceder51 just want you to know that the fact the other people on the train looked at you as if you were a freak says a lot more about the sort of people they are than it does about you and the sort of person you are, I know which sort person I prefer, keep up the kindness and don't let anyone change the way you do things, have a lovely day.

  • cedar51
    cedar51
    Posted on:
    18th Dec 2010 06:45pm

    Jess25 says: ceder51 just want you to know that the fact the other people on the train looked at you as if you were a freak says a lot more about the sort of people they are than it does about you and the sort...

    cedar51 says: Jess25 thanks - I spend a lot of time doing things for others because I believe that it comes back to oneself in certain other ways :-)

  • DiDi
    DiDi
    Posted on:
    19th Dec 2010 11:05am

    DiDi says: On Friday A young boy in our Shopping centre left a bike lying across the walkway. I looked at him and said "not a good idea" he just pick it up and moved it and gave me a big smile. ( walk with a stick). Then a another fellow came along and pick it up and stood it up again the drain pipe to make sure the nobody fell over it. So there people out there that do random acts of kindness. This was in the suburb of Tahmoor NSW.

  • VivK
    VivK
    Posted on:
    19th Dec 2010 01:06pm

    VivK says: Its so nice to know there are lovely people out there. I know at times I have been surprised at the courtesy of teenage boys - opening a door for me or being polite when you expect them to be rude like most are. It proves that some parents do a good job.
    I started this discussion as I had just done a RAK and wondered if other did too. Recently I sold one of my handmade needle felted bears to a lady in the States, she bought the purple bear from me as she was collecting purple bears in memory of her Mum who had died earlier in the year of pancreatic cancer. It was only after I sent her the bear that she told me this. I was touched by her story and decided to make another purple bear for her and send it as a Christmas present to her - her first Christmas without her Mum would be hard so I made a purple angel bear and sent it with a Christmas card. I dont know if she has got it yet but whether I hear from her or not it was my little RAK for this time of year. Its so nice to know there are still lots of kind people in this world. Happy Christmas everyone! (and keep telling me your stories too)

  • Tha
    Tha
    Posted on:
    20th Dec 2010 08:34am

    Tha says: I once ended up arriving in a town in the middle of Malaysia around 10 o'clock at night and for some reason the local hotels were all full so after an hour of traipsing around with my backpack I was contemplating a night in a doorway; female, early 20s, alone and to be honest scared. A complete stranger stopped to ask if I was ok and not only went off on his moped to find me a hotel room but also offered to pay for it for me. He was hoping to travel himself one day so was hoping that the good karma would come back to him when he was travelling. I was not only enormously grateful for his help, I also felt ashamed of initially suspecting his motives..... He was just a genuinely kind and generous man.

  • KNM
    KNM
    Posted on:
    20th Dec 2010 11:44am

    KNM says: I have done a few things this year which I felt really happy doing - and I didn't know anyone of them. Whilst standing at a queue at a coffee shop, I bought a Mum and her little girl a coffee - didn't know them, but just offered them a drink. I think the Mum was very shocked, at first she thought it was a joke, but when she asked for what she wanted (and her little girl asked for a iced chocolate and cake), and I paid up and wished them a happy Xmas, they were standing there with surprised smiles on their faces. Have bought a couple of homeless folks a hot drink and sandwich in the Winter. But the thing that really made me feel happy was buying some toys/books and taking them down to Westmead Childrens Hospital and donating them as Xmas presents. Just knowing that a child waking up on Xmas morning and having a little gift that might make them smile whilst they're trying to heal/get better - gets me choked up with happiness.
    I believe that if you dish out your kindness whenever you can - that one day, it will come back to you when you might need it.

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