Cafe Chat Discussion
12th Nov 2010 03:20pm
Last Post 21st Sep 2012
Discussion: Where did you meet your man?
I'm a single 30 year old girl living in Sydney and can't seem to meet the right man! They all promise the world and deliver nothing...
15th Nov 2010 04:28pm
Razor says: Try joining a surf club
24th Nov 2010 10:19am
jayne says: i met mine through a chat sight have been happy ever since
25th Nov 2010 06:41pm
super88 says: Just go out and do whatever it is that you enjoy doing.
If your lucky enough to meet someone, you'll have a head start with something in common.
25th Nov 2010 07:09pm
cat says: be happy within yourself whatever and people will notice,
1st Dec 2010 02:25pm
Ralphy says: When you least expect it, it will happen.... This is said often enough and I think it is true. Like a watched pot never boils, if you are looking you won't find him. It is when you decide that "stuff this, I'm just going to have fun" is when he may very well sweep you off your feet... does that still happen these days? lol.... I think the easiest is chat rooms (taking precautions of course)... in chat you get talk without all the nerves and everything that goes with it... you can be yourself and ask any questions you want and get a "feel" for the person before you even meet... if you "pick up" whilst out, it is physical attraction only and usually very quickly you can and do run out of things in common and things to talk about... with chat you build up the excitement level of meeting and you almost "know" each other when you do meet, the other side is that you can decide at any time that he isn't what you want so don't meet. Only have to be careful of players and cheats etc but they can happen when you meet someone in real life too.... Go the rabbitohs lol.....
17th Dec 2010 09:29pm
gardenbutterfly says: Lower your sites!!!!!! Try for friendship first!!!!! And if all else try yahoo.com.au.
I met my second hubby this way. We got to know each other first and then it all just fell into place. We have been together 6 years and married one.
17th Dec 2010 10:46pm
relish says: I met my lovely fiance on zoosk but I had to sort through lots of rubbish first LOL, I was ready to give up, being 36, a single mum with a nine year old who has aspergers I was having no luck, so just be yourself and you will know when they are the one, enjoy yourself and accept yourself, and stuff anyone else who doesn't accept you just the way you are! I am so lucky we are getting married next year and our daughter just turned 3 months old today, so when it happens it happens fast LOL! keep faith, it will happen naturally! and usually oddly lol!
17th Dec 2010 10:48pm
CheryDJ says: I met my hubby in a chat room, which since has been closed. I went to melb to meet him, then he came up here, then back to melb and packed to move up here....We married 2 1/2 years ago now....and we are both so happy.
Cheryl & Max
18th Dec 2010 03:18am
Huskydog says: I am a happy single 60+ lady who doesn't need the 'right' man to 'complete me'!
It is great to be independent - no arguments over the remote, putting the bin out or 'going out with the boys'! Just enjoy your independence and peaceful life...
16th Jan 2011 07:14pm
Huskydog says: I am a happy single 60+ lady who doesn't need the 'right' man to 'complete me'!
It is great to be independent - no arguments over the remote, putting the bin out or 'going out with the boys'! ...
Lise says: Hiya Huskydog,
Happy New Year!
Oh bravo! bravo! Huskydog.....am standing and applauding!
Well said! Here Here!
It is nice to be able to do what you like then you like, the independence is brilliant!
18th Dec 2010 09:43am
kittymcl says: I met my man through RSVP. The last 10 months have been the happiest of my life. Being a single mum with 2 kids, I thought I'd have no luck finding love, but we are now engaged and extremely happy.
18th Dec 2010 11:03am
bren says: Obviously I am coming at this issue from the other gender direction, but I found my first wife when I went to a restaurant with a friend on New Years Eve, and even though it was very busy the waitress serving the table found time to chat a little while taking the orders and serving the food, She gave me her phone number, saying she'd like to talk later if I wanted to. We ended up getting married 11 months later. We had two kids (now grown up with kids of their own) and the marriage lasted 13 years. It ended in divorce, but there were many happy times.
My second wife was conducting telephone surveys, and we just clicked - she asked whether it would be ok if we had a chat after she'd finished the survey since I was the last one for the day. We chatted, got to know each other, lived together for about 10 months then got married. She died after a long battle with cancer earlier this year after 17 years of marriage,
Without going into the precise circumstances, I believe have found someone else, also meeting her in her work capacity, and I am hopeful that too will in due course result in a long term relationship.
As someone said you don't necessarily find love by going out looking for it (that can end up making you feel depressed and disheartened) When the time is right, and you are least expecting it, love will find you ...
22nd Dec 2010 02:52pm
bren says: Obviously I am coming at this issue from the other gender direction, but I found my first wife when I went to a restaurant with a friend on New Years Eve, and even though it was very busy the...
Rainbow says: Thanks for your advice Bren, great to hear from a male perspective. I'm sorry to hear about your wife's passing but I'm glad you found happiness again. Like you say -when the time is right, and you are least expecting it, love will find you ...
22nd Dec 2010 03:10pm
Rainbow says: Thanks for your advice Bren, great to hear from a male perspective. I'm sorry to hear about your wife's passing but I'm glad you found happiness again. Like you say -when the time is right, and you...
bren says: You're welcome Rainbow, and thanks for your condolences. Hope all works out with your new guy!
18th Dec 2010 12:46pm
Sharra says: I met my partner on line using Lavalife. I had to sift through a lot of people I was not interested in until I found him but we have been together now for 6 years. I was not interested in appearance but in personality so I did not want to go through a big social scene trying to find someone.
the first thing I worked out was the sort of man I was looking for. Once I knew the type of personality I wanted I put a profile up and communicated with the men who contaced me. It is not hard being contacted. You put a picture up with your profile and you would be surprised how many men are looking for partners. I wanted a man who could communicate, many can't, and so email and online chatting was a good way to find that. If I thought I found someone I then arranged a very safe meeting place in a nice public area with lots of people, like a restaurant. That is when you find out if there is any chemistry. If that works as well then you just have to date and see if it will work.
It took me a few goes to find the right man but you have to look at each failure as a learning curve. Each one tells you something you are not looking for and helps you work out exactly what you do really want. It is not a simple matter of chemistry. In fact we can be attracted to the wrong sort of man by chemistry alone. You can be attracted to many men but only one might be the man you want to share your life with.
18th Dec 2010 02:33pm
Linda says: Met my man through an internet dating site nearly four years ago. We are very happy although you do have to sort out the scum first.
18th Dec 2010 06:29pm
bronzzeAngel says: well I was a bit older single and with kids, so going out was not an option. Not easily unless their father had them. Nor was inviting men over to my house when we all know stalkers exist and our luck is they would be the one we contact.
SO I join an online dating site and I set myself a few rules first before I even met these guys.
I wrote who I was, what I expected my life style to be and what I expected to find would suit me and my life. This I refused to compromise on as if I did I would find out that any relationship was doomed to fail. When looking at their profile I needed them to match if not mirror mine.
Eg dont look for a guy who likes to go out clubbing, if you have no interest in it at all, other wise you will find it will be a big issue in the future. But someone who loves chatting over coffee means we can have long conversations.
When meeting for the first time I would do so in a public place, where I didnt go to often eg a different shopping centre and met at a coffee place.
I also would have a friend ring if I was concerned and wanted a way out of the coffee date.
I found I got many friends this way as we had little in common but I also found my husband and we literally been close from day one, as his and my ideals have been nearly identical.
22nd Dec 2010 02:48pm
Rainbow says: Hi ladies, I want to thank you all for your wonderful advice - you have some great stories to share. I have actually met a nice guy since posting on this forum so we'll just have to wait and see where it goes... wish me luck!
As Huskydog says though, if it doesn't work out...then it doesn't really matter!
21st Sep 2012 10:59am
Rainbow says: Hi ladies, I want to thank you all for your wonderful advice - you have some great stories to share. I have actually met a nice guy since posting on this forum so we'll just have to wait and see...
Trudes1 says: Test
29th Dec 2010 02:33pm
barbi says: Hi Rainbow, I met my man many years ago through Scottish Country Dancing - I belonged to one of our town's local clubs. When I moved from my home town to another for further training in my chosen career I found they had a club there so I joined up and first night there, first dance [the Eightsome Reel]. and it was love at first sight. We are celebrating our 50th year of marriage. What are your hobbies?