Posted by: hellsiebear
Posted: 29th Nov 2010
Having worked in the hospitality, gaming, retail, and security services for more than 25 years, I have noticed that cultural differences, education background, and environment give a very unique perspective to each of us concerning what is considered good manners and what is not. When it comes to Chilvary, anyone can learn it, but others have to acknowledge it when it is given and aid the person making the attempt to keep at it. We are all products of our environment and it comes down to the individual on how they interact with their environment. There is no excuse for age I feel, as the world is rapidly changing and getting smaller in terms of neighbourhoods. In some cultures it is seen as being lower class or as a slave to show any form of Chilvary: butlers open doors for instance, so if you take the time to be the one to open doors for others, you are seen as a slave. I believe that Chilvary can only be maintained in a society that promotes it as something charasmatic and classy, and will only thrive among the young if it is continuously nurtured like all things by everyone around them, not just their parents.
By the way, my mother came from a tiny island in the South Pacific, did not finish school, and had to learn English as she went along. She took it upon herself to learn all she needed to get by in white society and build a successful career, earn a bachelor degree, and be noted as a woman of style and grace. These things she did not learn from her parents. She did it all in spite of them. Reply