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  • Taurus
    Taurus
    Posted on:
    4th Feb 2010 01:54pm

    Last Post 1st Oct 2012
    Replies     20

    Why is valentines day so important?

    In today's society valentines day is celebrated everywhere. I see girls walking around with roses, chocolates, teddies and often wonder do people esp. the youngsters even know what it stands for and the history behind it or is this just an excuse for companies to make more money?

    I often get the disappointed look from family/friends upon telling them my husband and I don't celebrate valentines day.

    Why is there so much pressure? Do you feel it too?

    Shouldn't we love and care for each other every day of the year? What is so special about that particular day?

  • Velsy
    Velsy
    Posted on:
    5th Feb 2010 10:15am

    Velsy says: I think it's all a bit of fun. I don't take it too seriously (ie get offended and think hubby doesn't love me if there are no roses) but we usually use it as an excuse to get out and have a nice dinner or something. Yes I think companies exploit it but we take the bait.

  • Suzanne279
    Suzanne279
    Posted on:
    3rd Sep 2010 10:22am

    Velsy says: I think it's all a bit of fun. I don't take it too seriously (ie get offended and think hubby doesn't love me if there are no roses) but we usually use it as an excuse to get out and have a nice...

    Suzanne279 says: It is FUN! it can go a bit far sometimes but i would only take offense if that was the only time of year i receive roses.

  • LT17
    LT17
    Posted on:
    16th Feb 2010 10:09pm

    LT17 says: I do think there is a bit of pressure, but I think it's single people that feel it the most. So many people around this time of year will ask what you're doing for Valentines day, and hand our sympathetic looks when you say 'nothing'.

    My partner and I don't really celebrate Valentines Day, but I do think it's nice to have one day of the year to either spend with each other, or do something nice for each other. Just like Fathers Day or Mothers Day!

  • Helcat
    Helcat
    Posted on:
    30th Mar 2010 02:15pm

    Helcat says: I agree that as a couple, you should always find some time to put aside to celebrate and enjoy each others' company, but this does not have to be on Valentine's Day!
    To mark the special day though, if you so choose, does not have to be about spending money to further feed the conumerist treadmill - write a poem, create a card, pick some flowers from the neighbour's garden :), give eachother a massage. etc etc.


  • ValmaL
    ValmaL
    Posted on:
    22nd Apr 2010 03:24pm

    ValmaL says: I agree with you we have been married 44+ years and never celabrated valentines day. We love and care for each other in private.

  • Jennifer
    Jennifer
    Posted on:
    17th Sep 2010 07:45am

    ValmaL says: I agree with you we have been married 44+ years and never celabrated valentines day. We love and care for each other in private.

    Jennifer says: My husband and I have been married for 46 years and have celebrated valentines day every year. He was one of the first people to put a notice in the paper.
    Why not make life fun in every way you can?

  • ValmaL
    ValmaL
    Posted on:
    17th Sep 2010 08:32am

    Jennifer says: My husband and I have been married for 46 years and have celebrated valentines day every year. He was one of the first people to put a notice in the paper.
    Why not make life fun in every way...

    ValmaL says: Congratulions if it is important to you go for it. We obviously do what works for us. Cheers Valma

  • CAT17
    CAT17
    Posted on:
    18th Feb 2011 02:16am

    Jennifer says: My husband and I have been married for 46 years and have celebrated valentines day every year. He was one of the first people to put a notice in the paper.
    Why not make life fun in every way...

    CAT17 says: Hi Jennifer, you and I have been married the same amount of years (46 - but who is counting!) We don't celebrate 14 Feb. but I can tell you my husband has never forgotten my birthday (always get a lovely gift he chooses) and every wedding Anniversary it has been flowers and dinner. He hasn't been well this last couple of years and we haven't been able to dine out, but I still have dinner bought for me and I don't think I have ever cooked on our Anniversary. Aint love grand!

  • stoddy
    stoddy
    Posted on:
    3rd Aug 2010 01:30pm

    stoddy says: The Americans do it so we had to copy them

  • annie
    annie
    Posted on:
    23rd Nov 2010 09:18am

    annie says: i think it is good to celebrate valentines day if you have someone special to help you celebrate it.I usually give my husband a card but he doesnt get me one.this doesnt matter as it is important to love and care every day

  • Joseph
    Joseph
    Posted on:
    27th Nov 2010 10:10am

    Joseph says: i think it is important for people to pause and smell the roses - or literally give the roses. not everyday do we ponder and realize that what we are doing is sharing love and happiness to those surrounding us. there is no pressure , you can always say no if you don't want to. i just wish it's not so commercialized as it is now - the price of flowers and chocolates escalate too much at this time of the year.

  • Zammy
    Zammy
    Posted on:
    2nd Dec 2010 08:15pm

    Joseph says: i think it is important for people to pause and smell the roses - or literally give the roses. not everyday do we ponder and realize that what we are doing is sharing love and happiness to those...

    Zammy says: Why not a nice bottle of wine, cheese bickies and olives, sitting on a river bank watching the sun set after work!!!. Cheap and romantic. Throw a fishing line in and icing on the cake. any excuse. Tray

  • Sydguy
    Sydguy
    Posted on:
    9th Dec 2010 12:35am

    Sydguy says: Really the reason is to keep Hallmark, florist and chocolate companies from having a bad year. Plus we are human and we at times wish to show how affectionate we are. So we buy overpriced card, red roses, chocolates and silly stuffed toys

  • Laura-Anne11
    Laura-Anne11
    Posted on:
    31st Dec 2010 04:15pm

    Laura-Anne11 says: Valentines Day for me is a special day, the day i met my man!
    We dont do all the lovey dovey stuff, but an exchange in gifts is usually the go along with dinner and movies, but we do that every now and then anyways.
    I think some people go OTT with it and others just treat it lightly!

    I think that everyday should be a day where you shower your loved one and it shouldn't be just one day out of the year.

  • Lise
    Lise
    Posted on:
    19th Feb 2011 01:11am

    Lise says: HIya Taurus,

    Exactly right, it's just another way of money grabbing.

    The amount of stuff that was around in shops for Valentines day.
    Then Tuesday/ Wednesday you wouldnt have even known, all the card stands were empty.

    Another Ocassion Commercialised! and the meaning totally lost!

    Cheers,

    Lise

  • lamyaa
    lamyaa
    Posted on:
    24th May 2011 11:50pm

    lamyaa says: Yes i agree with you Taurus we should care and love each other every day of the year, but is nice to have one day of the year to show that love but it should'nt be a pressure for someone to celebrate it....it should be a choice.

  • beth
    beth
    Posted on:
    24th Jan 2012 10:35am

    beth says: i see your point but i suppose in my opinion i don't celebrate it either only because one i don't have anyone to share it with and two like you have said we should share our love everyday but for those who truly believe in valentines day i suppose it gives them a little extra bit of love and hope in their lives.

    me personally I'm not one for sharing how i feel to the people i love around me so its always birthdays and Christmas's i share how much i love the people around me, so in some sense that's what people do when they celebrate valentines day sharing their love for the whole day just to show people that they care about them and that they cant live without them.

  • kathy77
    kathy77
    Posted on:
    17th Feb 2012 07:51pm

    kathy77 says: Yes I think that we should show love and affection every da, I personally don't just celebate valentine's day as I think it is far too commercial

  • Hilary
    Hilary
    Posted on:
    20th Feb 2012 01:25am

    Hilary says: What annoys me is everyone saying happy valentines day to each other , like their friends and people on facebook that they hardly know. I thought Valentines was for people romantically involved. Each day can be Valentines and it doesn't have to be expensive .. a note saying "I love you" , cooking a special meal. ... a loving look. Having said that it is nice to recieve chocolates and be taken out for dinner!

  • shorty
    shorty
    Posted on:
    1st Oct 2012 08:44am

    shorty says: I think Valentine day should be every day if you are in a good strong and loving relationship. Why should it have to be one day. Saying I love you and getting a hug and a kiss from each other and able to sit down and talk to each other and help each other out, should mean alot.

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