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21st Nov 2011 08:00pm
Last Post 17th Mar 2012
Who names a grandparent?
News of the grandchild's birth was barely out before people started asking what I wanted to be called. I thought the first grandchild named the grandparents, but my friends don't agree. They think I need to choose. Must say I'm in no hurry to be known by a different name.
What do you think? Who decided on grandparents' names in your family?
And what are you called?
23rd Nov 2011 03:11pm
sarahchaalan says: definatly do not agree .... you name it whatever you wnat .... then again it all depends on your culture and tradition... nowerdays .... people just follow whatever they want yto follolw ...
for goodness sake i was named frim a nurse :)
23rd Nov 2011 03:16pm
sarahchaalan says: definatly do not agree .... you name it whatever you wnat .... then again it all depends on your culture and tradition... nowerdays .... people just follow whatever they want yto follolw...
Hillicent says: and what do your grandchildren call you? (i assume you have some...)
30th Nov 2011 11:47am
sherri says: If we waited till the child was able to speak, then that is a long time of being referred to as 'Ummm'.
No, the baby's parents will be talking to him/her about you long before he/she is able to respond. ...so you do get some sort of a say - but in these days when there could possibly be several sets of granparents and step grand-parents it is almost a case of 'take a number'!
In my own case, my daughter (the new auntie) suggested 'Ma' - so 'Ma' I became, because certainly 'grannie' and it's ilk held no appeal for me
. ...but it might well be that your name undergoes yet another change when 'junior' begins to talk - as was the case for a friend of mine who became 'RaRa' because her grandson could not manage grandma - so you might yet get your wish!
21st Dec 2011 10:28pm
louisa says: I had this issue in my family. It caused no end of trouble. I think they should show you the respect you deserve, and ask you what you would like to be called. You have to wear the name, so you need to feel comfortable with it. Sort this problem out sooner than later and good luck.
22nd Dec 2011 04:06pm
louisa says: I had this issue in my family. It caused no end of trouble. I think they should show you the respect you deserve, and ask you what you would like to be called. You have to wear the name, so you...
karenalien says: No wonder you had trouble. Sounds like you resent the in-laws. As long as the grandchildren can happily know which grandparent you are is the main point and it's about love for me, not respect. I'm a first time grandmother and my title was just sprung on me and it wasn't the one I was thinkig of so why kick up a stink? Two nanas and two different titles is easier for everyone.
22nd Dec 2011 12:39am
CAT17 says: I am Nonna to my little grandsons (my two daughters love it) I chose Nonna to honour my father (an Italian) who passed away long before my children were born. I just know he would be pleased that I have chosen Nonna and he would have loved his grand daughters and their little boys. My husband chose Gramps as his name for the grandies. My girls love that too. Being a grandparent is just wonderful.
22nd Dec 2011 07:02am
SteveI says: It's up to you - my parents and in-laws let my kids know from very early on what they wanted to be called and there was never an issue.
22nd Dec 2011 08:36am
yecats says: We've just had our first child and we asked the grandparents what they wanted to be known as once he was born. This way as he grows and learns he will associate their "name" with the face/person. When we talk to him, we talk about my parents and my husbands parents, and when they come over, we ask him if he wants to go to Grandad or Nana or does he have smiles for Grandma etc, just like we refer to ourselves as Mummy and Daddy.
22nd Dec 2011 09:43am
laurie says: I was working in a shop and there was an older lady looking at the goods. A little boy of about seven appeared at the door, leant against the doorjam, crossed one leg over the other and said 'Watcha doin' Granny?' and from that moment on I knew I would be Grandma when the time came. I now have fourteen grandchildren and am happy to be Granma to them all!
So 'I' chose what I wanted to be called.
22nd Dec 2011 05:56pm
smiley says: my grandmother on maternal side was always Grandma my mother was known by grand chirlren as Grandma I accept Ma from my grand children and Great Ma from my great grand children, another side for some of my grand children refer/call their father's mother as Nana and father's father as Grandpa their choosing.
So I really think its your choose, whatever you feel comfortable with. Best of luck
22nd Dec 2011 09:36pm
mazzab says: My daughter-in-law asked me what I would like to be called. I chose "nanny" as that is what my children used to call my mother when she was alive. I was very pleased that I was asked as to me, it gave me a chance to keep the memory of my mum alaive within the family. The last thing I wanted to be called was "grandmother" or "grandma" simply because these names did not bring happy memories.
Talk to your son / daughter and if a particular "name" has happy memories for you, ask that you be addressed by that name and give the reasons why. The baby will grow up knowing, when they hear that name, that it means you.
22nd Dec 2011 10:18pm
June says: Hello Hillicent, When my first grandchild was born, he also had his father's mother and my mother, his GGrandmother. Both of them were called Nanna, so my daughter asked me what I would like to be called. I chose Grandy because I had read it in a book once. They were happy with that and I am now Grandy to three grandchildren, all of whom I love dearly and I think they feel the same way about me. I might add several of their friends also call me Grandy when they see me. Choose something you like and feel comfortable with and I am sure your Grandchild will love you anyway.
23rd Dec 2011 09:22am
tleekn says: Hi,
When my first grandson was born I was to be nannan,but as he learnt to speak he started to call me nanny and his other nona.i now have three grandchildren and they all call me nanny.
3rd Jan 2012 10:56pm
goanna says: My daughter asked what would I like my grandchildren calling me and I said 'Nanna' because 'Grandmother' is far too old fashioned and that's something I would hate being called. I'm young at heart and not a fuddy-duddy.
11th Feb 2012 10:38am
goanna says: My daughter asked what would I like my grandchildren calling me and I said 'Nanna' because 'Grandmother' is far too old fashioned and that's something I would hate being called. I'm young at heart...
Chrissy says: I agree with you. I'm also a Nana because as far as I'm concerned I'm to young to be a Granny even if I am 57 :)
12th Feb 2012 02:03pm
goanna says: The grandparent has the right to tell her daughter/son what she would like to be called, whether that be Nanna, Nanny, Nan, Grandma or Ma. In my opinion the grandchild should never call the grandparents by their first name out of respect for them. My daughter asked me what I preferred and I said Nanna which is nice. I'm young at heart and the name 'Grandma' sounds far too old. I hope that gives you enough information.
12th Feb 2012 02:05pm
goanna says: Also I wish to point out that the child's parents are the only ones who have the right to choose their children's names. It has nothing to do with anyone else. Its not their child and they have no rights naming him or her.
17th Feb 2012 08:47pm
wrighty says: MY PARENTS HAVE PASSED AND I ASKED THE INLAWS WHAT THEY WISH TO BE CALLED SO WE WENT WITH GRANNY AND GRANDPA.
18th Feb 2012 12:34am
washann says: I told my daughter what I wanted to be called. There was already a Nana, Granny, Nanny and i liked Grandma. It sounded distinguished and was to be my title (even at 38)
17th Mar 2012 11:44am
Patsy says: In our family we are Grandma & Grandad or sometimes grandpop. or the older ones call us my our christian name we dont mind. Pasty
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