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  • Kaz
    Kaz
    Posted on:
    23rd Sep 2011 07:29pm

    Last Post 30th Aug 2012
    Replies     18

    Swearing.

    I dont mean to be a prude, but does anybody else out there find the amount of swearing going on in public places increasing. You go out to dinner and its everywhere. Has respect for other people vanished. I let out the occasional one out myself, but I cant handle it in front of children and even the elderly. People dont care. What do you think ?

  • puppymummy
    puppymummy
    Posted on:
    18th Oct 2011 05:58pm

    puppymummy says: I agree that the level of swearing is completely over the top at times. I notice it more now because I am a teacher and have to stop my students swearing in class (even though I do swear myself occasionally - just not in class!), but even so it seems at times that swear words are used as punctuation.
    I was on the train the other day, and was very uncomfortable listening to the conversation from people on the next set of seats (I can't effing believe that she effing likes that guy! That's so effing crap!) etc. There was a reason that there were empty seats next to this woman, even though the train was starting to become crowded!

  • Kaz
    Kaz
    Posted on:
    18th Oct 2011 06:04pm

    puppymummy says: I agree that the level of swearing is completely over the top at times. I notice it more now because I am a teacher and have to stop my students swearing in class (even though I do swear myself...

    Kaz says: I find the same thing on public transport, school children thinking they are cool by using the f word constantly. I dont think young girls swearing looks cool, I think its quite trashiy. God knows what my daughters are like away from home, I hope they show a littl respect for others.

  • ethereal
    ethereal
    Posted on:
    19th Oct 2011 07:22pm

    ethereal says: I swear all the time when I am at home or at a friends home. I do mean a lot!! BUT I never ever swear in front of children or strangers who might be offended by my language and I would never swear in front of my grandparents!
    I don't think you are being a prude, Kaz, even as someone who swears a lot, I think it is inappropriate in a lot of situations such as a restaurant as you mentioned.

  • jw-1608
    jw-1608
    Posted on:
    30th Aug 2012 07:50am

    ethereal says: I swear all the time when I am at home or at a friends home. I do mean a lot!! BUT I never ever swear in front of children or strangers who might be offended by my language and I would never swear...

    jw-1608 says: I agree. I'm a terrible swearer at home and so is my husband, but we all need to be sensitive of the effect your swearing (or any of your actions) might have on other people in a more public setting. On the other foot (at home), swearing does do wonders for letting off steam.

  • Hartmut
    Hartmut
    Posted on:
    19th Oct 2011 08:49pm

    Hartmut says: I have no problem with the occasional swearing when your hammer has an unfortunate contact with your fingers! However, vulgar and foul language is becoming the norm rather than the exception. These days there is hardly a TV show or a movie that is not full of expletives.
    Do the writers think it is "cool" to use those? Or are they just not smart enough to develope an intelligent, witty dialogue?



  • Eugine
    Eugine
    Posted on:
    22nd Jun 2012 06:47pm

    Hartmut says: I have no problem with the occasional swearing when your hammer has an unfortunate contact with your fingers! However, vulgar and foul language is becoming the norm rather than the exception. These...

    Eugine says: It certainly doesn't set a good example for young people in the community when they hear swearing on TV or in a movie. There is usually no call for it being used in these circumstances. In my circle of friends nobody swears when we are together so it sounds far more obnoxious when we are subjected to it when we are out. Very, very rude self indulgent people!!!

  • Dot
    Dot
    Posted on:
    19th Oct 2011 11:09pm

    Dot says: I think there is a time and place for swearing. I don't like to hear people using bad language constantly. I find (relating to myself) that at times, it has been the only way I could get my message through. Nobody expected ME to say THAT WORD, and they sat up and took notice. If I swore all the time, they would just ignore me !!

  • sweetsunshine
    sweetsunshine
    Posted on:
    20th Oct 2011 02:32pm

    sweetsunshine says: I agree Kaz. Just to highlight some of the extremes:
    I've overheard many a conversation (If you can call it that) and arguments, where just about every second word is the f word. Apart from being insulted myself at having to hear such waste of expression, I can't help but thinking that it's no wonder these people have a problem with communication as they really aren't saying much. For example a couple of youths were arguing and seriously most of the words in their sentence was the f word! They actually weren't really SAYING much at all. How can they settle any disputes when nothing's actually being said!?
    I have funny thoughts as: Imagine if the f word and other profanities were suddenly removed for a day from their brains, either one of two things would happen. ONE: nothing (they're suddenly mute) or TWO: they're amazed at how well they are getting along with others. LOL
    But seriously, I feel it does show not only a lack of respect for others, but a lack of respect for themselves.

  • pet
    pet
    Posted on:
    21st Oct 2011 09:50pm

    pet says: That's the thing today it's everywhere & just about everyone does it. It somehow has become part of the human speech. It can be spoken in a bad way or in a slightly not so bad way. Cussing will never go away we have just got to live amongst it, trying to tolerate it is frustrating so if you can speak up about it at maybe meetings, will make others support you in ways to maybe control it.

  • Kaz
    Kaz
    Posted on:
    26th Oct 2011 11:56am

    pet says: That's the thing today it's everywhere & just about everyone does it. It somehow has become part of the human speech. It can be spoken in a bad way or in a slightly not so bad way. Cussing will...

    Kaz says: The whole english language has changed. Has the thankyou and please world also escaped our vocabulary.

  • Sugarmum
    Sugarmum
    Posted on:
    27th Oct 2011 03:42am

    Sugarmum says: The use of swearing has definately become more acceptable in todays society but like you I still cringe when profanities are expressed in front of the eldery (for whom we should all have more respect) and young children (who do not need to see profanity as an acceptable way of expressing one self). Like most I am guilty of swearing but I do have self control and respect for others - what a pity the Y Generation have lost this.

  • sherri
    sherri
    Posted on:
    30th Nov 2011 03:48pm

    sherri says: While i don't object to swearing per se (unless it is directed AT me), - and I don't like blasphemy....I have noticed the number of words that would have been considered swearing in my childhood that are now to be found coming out of the mouths of those in the media.

    I am yet to hear the 'f bomb', but there have been several times that s**t and p**s and the like have been used as part of normal conversation in the media. And if this is now normal is it any wonder that we now notice the 'ambient level' rising?

  • mustang6000
    mustang6000
    Posted on:
    22nd Dec 2011 08:07am

    mustang6000 says: Totally agree that swearing seems to unfortunately have become so common that we are assaulted by it everywhere. I per5sonally do not swear and believe that to do so is a sign of a poor education and ability to express yourself in a respectful manner.

  • shaz
    shaz
    Posted on:
    25th Jan 2012 11:33am

    shaz says: I cannot believe the amount of swearing nowadays it seems it has become part of conversation with some people some of the language is a disgrace from all age groups . watching some people behave in this manner surrounded by their & others small children makes me quite sad

  • Den
    Den
    Posted on:
    29th Jan 2012 10:17pm

    shaz says: I cannot believe the amount of swearing nowadays it seems it has become part of conversation with some people some of the language is a disgrace from all age groups . watching some people behave...

    Den says: To Shaz and others that do not approve of swearing, all I can say is that you are to be applauded.
    It is correct to say, even in this day and age, that swearing is a disgrace. It is the verbal substance and manifestation of a senseless response from an intellect void of decency toward others. Swearing is that which causes the user to impart levels of offence without the consideration to meaning. So often the level of understanding of what that offensiveness means is lost in the evident lack of intellect and inability to express with decency.
    It is without doubt, the outward expression of a great lack of inner character and of any nobel intent toward others or self!

  • shaz
    shaz
    Posted on:
    29th Jan 2012 11:26pm

    Den says: To Shaz and others that do not approve of swearing, all I can say is that you are to be applauded.
    It is correct to say, even in this day and age, that swearing is a disgrace. It is the verbal...

    shaz says: It seems to be a complete lack of respect . Have listened to a percentage of males they will carry on with their conversation and language even though there is children , woman , elderly people present they do not even bat an eyelid . I seem to think society will get worse before it gets better if it ever does

  • Den
    Den
    Posted on:
    30th Jan 2012 02:30am

    shaz says: It seems to be a complete lack of respect . Have listened to a percentage of males they will carry on with their conversation and language even though there is children , woman , elderly people...

    Den says: We are in the midst of a social breakdown, a breakdown that shows as a disregard for the wellbeing of others. Such manifested disrespect, like any offense, begins where common sense and polite behaviour part. Swearing is the result of the failure to educate in areas of communication that allows one to convey with adequate clarity the intended effect. This intended effect has become so casual as to be an irreversible verbal diatribe of disrespect and that without consideration of the consequence or personal offense that decent people still are entitled to.
    When such disrespect is so blatently obvious, especially through the likes of swearing, we have lost the glue that would otherwise hold society together and keep it and those who are apart of it from the natural likelihood of a much greater offense, which is to ignore the innocence that all are entitled to.

  • Stinky
    Stinky
    Posted on:
    2nd Aug 2012 09:30pm

    Stinky says: I love to swear. Often, other words just don't cut it.

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