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  • Jen
    Jen
    Posted on:
    27th Feb 2009 11:47pm

    Last Post 3rd May 2013
    Replies     59

    The forgotten ones

    My biggest gripe when buying clothes is the fact that store buyers cater only for the young fashion junkies! What about us older ladies who don't want to wear 'hipster' pants or tight fitting things that look like they are 3 sizes too small? We value our comfort at this time of life and don't need to be slaves to (often ridiculous) fashion. I am tired of being ignored when it comes to everyday clothing at the 'affordable' stores. (K-Mart, Target, Big W etc.)

  • WitchyMage
    WitchyMage
    Posted on:
    17th Nov 2010 01:16pm

    frilly says: Sounds as if I have upset you,
    As for my granddaughters pleasing me by wearing clothes that I have pushed onto them NEVER.
    They are very modern young women with strong minds of their own....

    WitchyMage says: I'm sorry, I realised where you thought I was referring to your children.

    "I let my elders choose clothes for me too and I have no qualms with older ladies shopping for clothing in "trendy" seasonal stores so long as they are shopping for their children or choosing pieces that actually suit them or they feel happy to wear and not unhappily trying to conform to the current trends."

    This is what this sentence was meant to mean.
    Point 1: I don't mind the elderly shopping in "trendy teen stores" for their children
    Point 2: I don't mind elderly shopping in those stores for "themselves" so long as they choose items that they like and feel comfortable wearing and aren't just wearing it because they are "in" for teens/young adults.

    I was not directing this at you specifically in the way you thought I did. I'm sorry you took it as a personally and I apologise for the confusion.

  • redrobz
    redrobz
    Posted on:
    17th Mar 2010 06:09pm

    redrobz says: I agree but also consider the different sizes in places like Millars, you may be an 16/18 or 20 and try your supposed size on and have to go up 2 or 3 sizes due to being made in China and the shops do not care. They seem to forget that we also have money to spend and it is usually cash NOT credit.

  • shazza
    shazza
    Posted on:
    17th Mar 2010 11:21pm

    shazza says: You would think its about time designers & retail stores acknowledge/embrace the fact the women are all size 6-10 - they are missing out on a whole market just waiting to be tapped into

  • Dogs
    Dogs
    Posted on:
    13th Apr 2010 02:35pm

    Dogs says: Hmmmm. Seems to have stirred some women up :) Give your self-esteem a shakeup and wear what YOU feel good in even if you have to 'shop harder' until you find it ;) DON'T let anyone dictate to you. Head up, chest out, best foot forward, go forth, love yourself and live YOUR life the way YOU want to. It's AUSSIE girls, it's fantastic that you CAN do that here :)

  • clutterbugs
    clutterbugs
    Posted on:
    20th Apr 2010 12:11am

    Dogs says: Hmmmm. Seems to have stirred some women up :) Give your self-esteem a shakeup and wear what YOU feel good in even if you have to 'shop harder' until you find it ;) DON'T let anyone dictate to...

    clutterbugs says: I solved my fashion problems by going to all the different op shops here in Perth. Not only do we have some great designer boutiques but also some very good 2nd hand clothing shops. I stick with the basic blacks and browns for skirts, pants and jackets and I compliment them beautifully with heaps of bright colours for my t-shirts, shirts and tops. It doesn't cost me a fortune and I can always find something to fit. Because it has all been worn and washed before, I at least know that any jeans I buy won't shrink or fit differently once they been washed.

  • Dogs
    Dogs
    Posted on:
    20th Apr 2010 09:37am

    clutterbugs says: I solved my fashion problems by going to all the different op shops here in Perth. Not only do we have some great designer boutiques but also some very good 2nd hand clothing shops. I stick with...

    Dogs says: Good on you Bugsy :) As you say - a bit of effort and not letting 2-3 major stores dictate to you. Mind you, I read between the lines and see in your reply a confident and determined person who goes after what SHE wants. As a bloke I can tell you that also makes any woman attractive. Keep it up girls :)

  • ashlei<3
    ashlei<3
    Posted on:
    17th Apr 2010 10:50pm

    ashlei<3 says: I'm 18 and I hate half of the trends that come through all of the stores. That period where all you could buy was fluro ... gosh i just went without shopping!

    And as for clothing sizes ... I bought two dresses from the same brand, from the same line. Both are meant to be tight fitting. I had to get a size ten in one of the dresses, and a size six in the other! How in the world is this even possible? There needs to be a sizing standard, if only to make finding the right fit easier.

  • LUV-A-TIGER
    LUV-A-TIGER
    Posted on:
    21st Apr 2010 08:44pm

    LUV-A-TIGER says: I agree with u..
    Would love to see the ordinary pants, where you bend down u don't need to see ur bottom hanging out..lol

  • meggs
    meggs
    Posted on:
    22nd Apr 2010 11:27am

    meggs says: I totally agree, they cut most clothing for slim builds. What about regular builds. This is also happening in kids wear as well. I have a slim built child that I can buy jeans for with out a problem, my other daughter and myself are regular builds and its an absolute nightware trying to find jeans that fit comfortably ANYWHERE, not just department stores.

  • myer
    myer
    Posted on:
    28th Apr 2010 10:28am

    myer says: Dear Jen, I agree wholeheartedly I hate having to go shopping for clothes. I used to shop at Katies but now they cater mainly to the younger person and there are not any stores that cater for the older lady, and if there was they would do very well, the clothes do not have to be dowdy but fashionable and there is a market out there for them

  • myer
    myer
    Posted on:
    28th Apr 2010 10:32am

    myer says: Dear Jen, I agree wholeheartedly I hate having to go shopping for clothes. I used to shop at Katies but now they cater mainly to the younger person and there are not any stores that cater for the older lady, and if there was they would do very well, the clothes do not have to be dowdy but fashionable and there is a market out there for them

  • sandy106
    sandy106
    Posted on:
    2nd May 2010 08:09pm

    sandy106 says: this is so true and also they make them in fabrics and colours that look like old curtains. I am short and am sick of having to take the hem up on every skirt i get aswell.

  • Jen
    Jen
    Posted on:
    11th May 2010 07:39am

    Jen says: Wouldn't it be good if the fashion buyers for all the stores would read these comments?

    There is a whole market out there with money to spend and nothing to buy.

    Maybe if we yell loud enough, someone will hear us!!!

  • turkeyknees
    turkeyknees
    Posted on:
    14th May 2010 07:06pm

    turkeyknees says: im in my 30's and i find a lot of stores these days dont cater for tall women.as im 6ft tall,i find it hard at times to get long pants and jeans which are a right length for me.my grandma who is nearly 80 and very short complains she has problem s getting the right length in skirts,dresses and pants to suit her .i think it affects all of us both the younger and older ones:)

  • MellissaD
    MellissaD
    Posted on:
    16th May 2010 09:34pm

    MellissaD says: My problem is sizing. I wear a size 3 shoe and have to shop in the girls shoe section. t is impossible for me to find a nice pair of adult-looking heels unless I go to a specialty shoe shop that caters for small feet - and there are none where I live - and pay a ridiculous amount of money.

    Also, at 5', even the "short" leg length pants are too long, and I can't buy my pants in the girls' section because they don't fit around the waist, hips & bottom. I have to spend a small fortune on getting pants hemmed and tailored to fit properly

    I know some tall ladies have trouble buying pants that are the right lengths also.

    Even a small selection of basic clothes for 'odd' sizes would be helpful!

  • moo72
    moo72
    Posted on:
    4th Jun 2010 11:18am

    moo72 says: I agree with everything mentioned. It is difficult to know what size you are. Go into a jeans shop and say you are a size 12, but then get jeans in size 16 because they won't fit properly. Go into another shop and try on another brand, ask for a size 16 and then find size 12 fits. The more expensive brands are smaller and do cater for petitie women. I want options for my size, my age, and I don't want to dress down, I don't want to 'dress for my age' and become dowdier as I get older. Why should fashion be for the younger set???
    Further, it is very annoying, frustrating and demeaning when you walk into a store and appear invisible. I have gone to shops with a girlfriend who is STUNNING, and she gets noticed every time, yet I just mesh in with the background. Why can't the shop staff just help out everyone, no matter what size you are, no matter what age you are, no matter what colour you are????

  • DD
    DD
    Posted on:
    16th Jun 2010 08:50pm

    DD says: By not designing for larger/more mature women, designers seriously are missing out on billions of dollars just waiting to be earned. I just saw an episode of Trinny and Susanna, and it was all about this. But 'affaordable' stores, as it has been put, need to keep up with trends in order to be able to compete with more fashionable stores.
    However, I disagree that they only have current fashions. I walk through these shops with my mum, and I see heaps of clothes that she can totally wear. I mean, if things look like they're too small, maybe try a different size? Like, things also have different fits and stuff, no, they don't suit every body type, and that's why you need to try things on, and know what fits you, and suits you. I do textiles, and I know first hand that it's not possible to design anything which fits everyone.
    Also, to everyone complaining about clothes being too overpriced, those clothes are often the ones which use to quality fabrics, have attention to detail, and are made in a particular country (which I am personally against not choosing something because it was made in an Asian country). If you try to make a jacket or even a shirt from a clothing shop which is not discount, if you need to buy the quality fabric which they often use, come up with the design and pattern, cut, pin and sew the garment, you would know why they cost so much. One way to reduce these costs is to send it overseas, where the quality might not be too crash hot, and another way is to be less picky on the sizing etc. Sometimes, as buyers, we need to prioritse.
    There are also specialty stores for more mature women who value comfort and also want to look good, think Katies, Susanne. Some clothes may not be brilliant, but that's the point of shopping- you need to look around and choose. Sometimes people need to look around, especially if all you find is unfitting clothes. Maybe you aren't looking in the right shops.
    Then again, I agree that some of the clothes beign made right now, is really horrible.

  • Snookums
    Snookums
    Posted on:
    23rd Jun 2010 12:51pm

    Snookums says: Kmart and Target might be affordable in the short term but you would be better buying less frequently from more quality stores such as Sportscraft, Diana Ferrari and Motto. I have bought little in the way of winter clothes this year because I purchased classic items from these stores in the past. I just top up with a few key pieces and save money. Buy new accessories to brighten an outfit and that way you are not dating your look. Spend a little (extra) to save a lot (in the long term)

  • bluey42
    bluey42
    Posted on:
    6th Jul 2010 12:26pm

    bluey42 says: I agree with you 100% I am finding that they are starting make the smaller size's either bigger or smaller

  • mermaid
    mermaid
    Posted on:
    19th Jul 2010 05:05pm

    mermaid says: oooh the endless nightmare of fashion vs real people!! My friends and I recently shared the same gripes over lunch. We came to a realisation that it was time we did something about it and sought a number of websites via google to accomodate our sizes ranging from a real size 10 to 26. We found online companies who cater for all women sizes, styles, comfort and up to minute fashion for a fraction of the price sold in Target, KMart and other store.

    The reality is the fashion industry needs an overhaul to eliminate the over egoed marketing hype that fashion editors cotow to, to achieve $$$$$.

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