Society & Culture

Child Support & the non custodial parent.

Society & Culture

Posted by: Ralphy

23rd Nov 2010 08:54am

Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?


Ralphy
  • 29th Nov 2010 07:13am

Hi Blondie.... Thanks for that, It is indeed a tough situation and I think everyone has to take a step back (incl the CSA & Gov't) and realise that the kids are the ones that hurt the most. Sure she may get the child support payment but because we have to pay loads of money to CS we then cant afford to do anything special with our kids. Mine were moved to Sth Aus and it cost me a fortune (i didn't have) to see them for a weekend after driving from Vic then renting a holiday house etc etc..... I was quite prepared to continue doing this but the choice was taken from me when she moved without informing me and gave me no forward address or telephone number... That weekend I saw them my oldest went pale and was shaking and when I asked her wat was wrong she told me that mummy said I was in heavan.... cruelty at it's worst i think (for the kids)... I have never been a drop beat dad who has never paid CS but I was also in a Gov't job where they knew exactly how much I was earning... tax refund??? what is that, apparently that went straight to her too... my ex lives on a huge farm, owns horses, runs a saddlery aand all the rest and I still to this day rent.... there is no fair system in place and never will be because they just dont care ... I know of some people I used to work with that made up a buisness (boating company) and all their money went into that and they paid themselves a small wage... thing is, they didnt even own a boat, but this way they were paying minimal CS payments... I couldn't do somethign like that because that is fraud as far as im concerned and again, the kids are the ones that suffer.... I feel for your friends as they are in a bad place either way.. I hope it works out for them.... what of you? has the kids dad manned up and paid what he should? did you find it hard to meet someone else with all the crap that goes on in these type of battles?


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