Is There Really Only One Person For You?

Posted by: chrissyGirl

5th Feb 2011 08:35am

If so, what happens if you've already had your chance with him/her?
do you move on? do you let them no?.. what if your still close friends, in other relationships but no you both have feelings for each other?

Ollie

22nd Feb 2011 03:05pm

Nup! There is NOT a one and only! Some will be more/less suitable, more/less rewarding, deeper/shallower perhaps. I don't think any relationship is perfect, but you cannot compare. Every relationship we have is unique.... because people are different.
When you move on from a relationship, I believe you can still care about that person, but not as deep or intimate...maybe like a member of the family, Feelings, might be about loyalty, habit, guilt, regret and caring. What feelings? Sexual ? You can't act on all the feelings you have for others.....
I care that my ex is ok because he is essentially a good man and the father of my children, and we had some good times and grew up a lot together.
I value that was part of who we are today, much wiser, learning perhaps from mistakes made with him.
If you think there is a one and only, I think you may never find it. if he was 'it' you'd still be together.
I think life is about making the best of what is possible/available/offered !!!

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