Why do people want their partners to change?
Posted by: Ralphy
29th Nov 2010 10:58am
Just curious..... we all know that feeling of when we first meet someon and we are very attracted to them. It is everything about them that makes them attractive to us. the way they talk, what they say, what they do, all the little things that makes them who they are.... we then date (hopefully) and as we spend more and more time together and become partners in the true sense of the word something happens which has me baffled.... our "partner" tries to change us maybe small ways sometimes bigger ways.. why is this? why are they trying to change us from who we are after all isn't that who they were attracted to in the first place? Seriously, if you want us to change into something else then perhaps you should have looked for the person with those traits to begin with but then maybe they still wouldn't be happy and would still try to change that person........ doesn't changing us from who we are stop us from being the person you were attracted to? I understand that people grow and that some things change for us but I say that they shouldn't take away those little things that make us well US.....
senorita
- 12th Dec 2012 03:55pm
Love is really blind. I was attracted to my partner at first sight. Before marriage, everything was fine, we love each other very much, we spent hours talking on mobile phone with sweet talk and compliments and romantic getaways. After marriage, everything changed. As couple, of course, we lived together, but never thought that I have to live with his family which causes more conflicts. He wants me to change to suit his family, especially his mother. And our values are different as I need to adapt to his family values. His family can't accept my personalities and the way I've grown up in different cultures. His mother is so big mouth and is always angry at anything. Do you agree that I should change to suit his mother's taste?
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