Why do people want their partners to change?
Posted by: Ralphy
29th Nov 2010 10:58am
Just curious..... we all know that feeling of when we first meet someon and we are very attracted to them. It is everything about them that makes them attractive to us. the way they talk, what they say, what they do, all the little things that makes them who they are.... we then date (hopefully) and as we spend more and more time together and become partners in the true sense of the word something happens which has me baffled.... our "partner" tries to change us maybe small ways sometimes bigger ways.. why is this? why are they trying to change us from who we are after all isn't that who they were attracted to in the first place? Seriously, if you want us to change into something else then perhaps you should have looked for the person with those traits to begin with but then maybe they still wouldn't be happy and would still try to change that person........ doesn't changing us from who we are stop us from being the person you were attracted to? I understand that people grow and that some things change for us but I say that they shouldn't take away those little things that make us well US.....
blondie2003au
- 20th Sep 2012 04:24am
soon as your comfortale they let out little annoying traits. Thoes traits they hid when you first meet . Ive been living with mine seven months now . we are both in our fortys.
there are times he is so sweet . then he does stupid things, things he would not like if the shoe was on the other foot . so we all do change .but some need to more then others
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