Society & Culture

Why do people want their partners to change?

Society & Culture

Posted by: Ralphy

29th Nov 2010 10:58am

Just curious..... we all know that feeling of when we first meet someon and we are very attracted to them. It is everything about them that makes them attractive to us. the way they talk, what they say, what they do, all the little things that makes them who they are.... we then date (hopefully) and as we spend more and more time together and become partners in the true sense of the word something happens which has me baffled.... our "partner" tries to change us maybe small ways sometimes bigger ways.. why is this? why are they trying to change us from who we are after all isn't that who they were attracted to in the first place? Seriously, if you want us to change into something else then perhaps you should have looked for the person with those traits to begin with but then maybe they still wouldn't be happy and would still try to change that person........ doesn't changing us from who we are stop us from being the person you were attracted to? I understand that people grow and that some things change for us but I say that they shouldn't take away those little things that make us well US.....


Miss Prim
  • 1st Apr 2012 07:15pm

Well, I think my husband and I must be a lucky couple as we haven't tried to change each other, although we have changed gradually over the years ourselves. We say I love you every day to each other and don't let the sun go down on a disagreement. We rarely disagree but if we do we have fun making up. We are still so much in love as the day we married and it is coming up 26 years of a wonderful happy marriage.


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