Child Support & the non custodial parent.
Posted by: Ralphy
23rd Nov 2010 08:54am
Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?
Anonymous
- 5th Jan 2012 05:35pm
Ralph I am a grandparent of 6 and do sympathise with you on this topic. I have a son who has always worked 12 hour days 5 sometimes 6 days a week. He has a son of 12 months and his partner decided that they should separate, no reason was given and as she was his first he was at a loss as to what he had done wrong. Always the gentleman and emotionally distraught he agreed. Two weeks later she became a solo parent beneficiary and IRD stung him for $110.00 per week child support because of his gross wage. Of the $110 IRD give her $22 a week so what did she gain???? He is now struggling and some times walks an hour to work at 3am when he doesnt have enough for fuel in his car. He also buys the treasures and milk powder for his son and gosh knows what she spends her money on. This is totally unfair for those hardworking honest guys whom IRD and WINZ sting for 16 years based on their gross wages. I feel there should be a set national rate per child deducted from the non custodial parent particularly as the custodial parent only receives $22 per week as child support. My question is what happens to the remaining $88 per week that IRD have taken off my son?????Remembering of course that he also pays taxes. Is IRD double dipping and how many others are in this boat??????
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