Child Support & the non custodial parent.
Posted by: Ralphy
23rd Nov 2010 08:54am
Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?
Shay-Dee
- 13th Dec 2010 07:33am
Awww Ralphy some people can be so nasty over seperation.
My ex and I try to keep it together for our sons sake.
I get pissed at him still though as our custody agreements state that I am a supposed to have my son, one weekend a month and half of every holidays.
Everytime I try to organise my weekends, it takes 8-10 weeks to organise as his father always says he needs to "get back to me" on the dates etc, make sure thy have nothing on, and I have to keep ringing, and ringing, and ringing. And my son was only allowed to use the phone to ring me for my birthday Christmas, Mothers Day, I always had to ring if I wanted to talk :(
And I was not allowed holidays over the school holiday period from work as thats our busiest period. So I asked his dad if I could take him for the whole Christmas holidays one year and he refused, it still worked out that I would have him for less than 10% of the financial year so it would not interfere in his Family Benefits or my maintenance paymenst :(
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