Society & Culture

Child Support & the non custodial parent.

Society & Culture

Posted by: Ralphy

23rd Nov 2010 08:54am

Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?


Gypsy
  • 12th Dec 2010 09:28pm

Hi Shay-Dee, you made comment about the payments etc, just because you chose to give up your job to travel, your responsibility are still the same, things in the world don't stop because you chose this way, so why would you think you are so hard done by if you still have to pay yearly payments. I don't understand people complaining about paying out to bring up a child. These children do not ask for this, it's been the result of the parent. So if your life has been interupted because of your child, simply give up your rights as a parent, and let the child know the people that only care and able to afford to give everyday items such as food.
I think you people that complain are selfish no hopers, and please just because you have already had the child prior you get no medals for that either. Again it's the child that matters not you nor people like you.
I am not accusing you of being a deadbeat parent, I am saying stop your complaining, you have the child your life goes on hold until they reach the age they can defend for themselves, it's a simply as that


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