Where did you meet your man?

Sharra

I met my partner on line using Lavalife. I had to sift through a lot of people I was not interested in until I found him but we have been together now for 6 years. I was not interested in appearance but in personality so I did not want to go through a big social scene trying to find someone.

the first thing I worked out was the sort of man I was looking for. Once I knew the type of personality I wanted I put a profile up and communicated with the men who contaced me. It is not hard being contacted. You put a picture up with your profile and you would be surprised how many men are looking for partners. I wanted a man who could communicate, many can't, and so email and online chatting was a good way to find that. If I thought I found someone I then arranged a very safe meeting place in a nice public area with lots of people, like a restaurant. That is when you find out if there is any chemistry. If that works as well then you just have to date and see if it will work.

It took me a few goes to find the right man but you have to look at each failure as a learning curve. Each one tells you something you are not looking for and helps you work out exactly what you do really want. It is not a simple matter of chemistry. In fact we can be attracted to the wrong sort of man by chemistry alone. You can be attracted to many men but only one might be the man you want to share your life with.