Open Relationships

Posted by: Melada

31st Aug 2011 01:59pm

I would like to hear peoples thoughts on married couples who have so called (open relatinships), and who "arent" sexually active with each other, ie what does it mean to you, what restrictions (if any) should be placed on the partner (if only 1 of the couple is into seeking fun elsewhere) and the other 1 isnt interested.

Jill

23rd Sep 2011 06:45pm

Melada, I will give you the cold hard facts and I know this because I have been where you are right now. While you are in this "at arms, very limited relationship" you are stopping yourself from being available to meet someone who really deserves you. How can a guy (a nice guy) really love someone but be with someone else. They can't ..I know this..it's just a cop out..they want to have there cake and eat it too. Some men see this as a easy way to have all their needs meet and not disrupt there current lives too much..if I leave I will lose money and the house etc etc..
You may think all this is funny coming from me..being that I am the other women..but its true...we are easy targets because we are looking for love because we are lonely. So we except the crumbs they offer. We derserve better. As you said the children are not young and there is no GOOD reason for him not to leave his wife and treat you to the whole of him as you deserve. But the lying way your friendship or whatever (Ithink friends with benefits sounds nicer too) started means even if he left his wife you would not end up happy with him. Sometimes we need to spent a little time on our own instead of with the wrong people. I do know very well this is all easier said than done. I wish you all the best in working your way through this situation. You love him I know, but he is using you. You deserve to be loved completely. All the best for the future.

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