Society & Culture

Open Relationships

Society & Culture

Posted by: Melada

31st Aug 2011 01:59pm

I would like to hear peoples thoughts on married couples who have so called (open relatinships), and who "arent" sexually active with each other, ie what does it mean to you, what restrictions (if any) should be placed on the partner (if only 1 of the couple is into seeking fun elsewhere) and the other 1 isnt interested.

Melada
  • 23rd Sep 2011 09:57am

Hello Jason, many thanks for taking the time to reply to my question, I had an allteria motive in asking this, and hope i dont upset you with my "sneakiness" in asking this question in the way i did.
I am actually struggling with some aspects of my life right now and dont know what i want or were im going, only that at the moment i am seeing a guy who "was not" honest with me at the start and led me to believe he was single, when in fact he is still "happily" married so he says, and he also says he is in a "open relationship" and i find it difficult to fathom that if he was in a open relationship why he couldnt be honest with me in the first place.
Anyway long story short, he owned up and told me he was married, his wife found out about us, we have become friends all 3 of us, he gets no affection from her but he wont give me more than 1 day a week to spend it with him.
I am finding it difficult to break away as i have fallen for him, so my life is in limbo till i decide what too do with myself in regards to having to share this man OR seek and find 1 who can give me love everyday not just 1 day a week, but then the question arises "Is it love" or just a "sexual outing" on both our parts, him because he cant get it at home and myself as i am on my own and have no one.
Not only is his home life lacking sexual contact, which to a point can be tolerated if you truly love the person but there is no intimacy, no hugging, no bodily contact, between him and his wife, so yet again im thinking "why" cant he leave her ?
He has said to me he cant go the week without having that body contact with me ie hugs and cuddles etc not just the sex and that we have something more between us than just "bed buddies".
As i said im lost atm as im enjoying his company he takes me away on holidays and business trips rather than spend it with his wife and i know your prob thinking i hanging around for the trips and wine and dine dinners, in all honesty im not, i dont need all of what he offers me except his companionship, friendship and loving manner and the other stuff he offers me are just added but not necessary "extras" all of which are lacking in my life if i was too lose this man, and im in love with him also which makes it dreadfully hard to break free.
Anyway thanks again for your reply, i bet i have opened a can of worms on the subject now with my response.


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