Society & Culture

Open Relationships

Society & Culture

Posted by: Melada

31st Aug 2011 01:59pm

I would like to hear peoples thoughts on married couples who have so called (open relatinships), and who "arent" sexually active with each other, ie what does it mean to you, what restrictions (if any) should be placed on the partner (if only 1 of the couple is into seeking fun elsewhere) and the other 1 isnt interested.

Melada
  • 23rd Sep 2011 05:18pm

Hello Jill, Thanks for your reply, the problem i have is firstly the guy i am seeing is not my partner we found each other on a dating site on the net and things blossomed from there. On our first date i asked him "how long have u been single" he answered "just recently 3 or 4 weeks" and i beleived him, it wasnt till some weeks after that he told me the truth, which was "Im still married and very happily married" by that time i had fallen for the guy, then he says one evening at dinner, my wife wants to meet you, I thought wtf, anyway we met had dinner and she told me she was happy for me to keep seeing her husband as i was making him happy and giving him something she couldnt give him, in the mean time while he was seeing me his wife would sit at home alone, but she did tell me herself there marriage was 'open" and she is finding other partners herself now rather than look towards her husband, but its not because i have taken hold of him and hacve dragged hiom away from her, in fact she gets to spend 99.9% of her time with him, were as i get 1 nite a week with him and thats it, im thinking if she cant give him what he wants, but i can then let him come to me full time, bugger this "open relationship" plan, we both have kids all the same ages 18 up to 22 there old enough to understand, but i will point out again in case anyone is misunderstanding, the guy i am seeing is not my partner nor boyfriend nor have we ever been married nor lived defacto and yes u are right the young ones call it F/Buddies my "friend" calls it "Friends with Benefits"..i prefer the latter. Im just wondering if i am wasting my time in this "At arms length, relationship" as i dont ever see being able to spend more than 1 nite a week with this guy while ever he stays with his wife and he is given her blessing to do so, manyn thanks for the replies ive recieved, its good to hear different outlooks on a topic thats taboo to some people.


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